Veggi, It does sound like you have maybe lost some of your objectivity which is easy to do when you feel like crap. I don't think your plants are as bad as you do. I deal with s. cali heat too one year when I didn't get to them quick enough it actually smelled like my grow was literally cooking! But even that plant survived so I know yours can too. I'd put your possible boys and possible hermies and leave them out there just water them as needed and put your energy on the ones that you know are girls. Its easy to say but try not to beat yourself and your plants up.