Sorry about your father, I know how difficult that is.

I'd suggest that you just try casual dating. Maybe go online with those dating sites and play the field. There is even a dating website called Pot Partners, which matches up stoners. And don't worry too much about the "we can be friends" line that women often use - it's just a precaution on their part and if you play your cards right you may get closer. Plenty of relationships started out that way. Look at the good side of it: You are an eligible bachelor, are employed and drive. Most married or divorced guys are in a much worse situation than you are. I didn't get married until my 40's, and I wouldn't change a thing.