definitely a a good book suggestion in "A New Earth"... i also highly recommend it.

i have to Iris that i spent most of my life following the Christian faith always trying to find a way to change everyone around for the better.

since i have parted ways with that faith and began simply to focus on growing as an individual, i have been amazed to find that secret i always sought. my personal change has stimulated change in so many people i have relationship with for the better. my religious evangelism was almost fruitless... my personal change has been powerful.