'Friend' invitations ??

[the image reaper]

OK, my question is probably dumb, but people seldom want to be my friend, regardless ... when I get a 'friend' request, and I accept it, am I automatically on their friend list, too ? .. or, do I need to ask them for friend status ?? ... (this 'friend' stuff confuses me, ain't easy being a hermit sometimes) :jointsmile:

the image reaper Reviewed by the image reaper on 08-16-2008. 'Friend' invitations ?? OK, my question is probably dumb, but people seldom want to be my friend, regardless :D ... when I get a 'friend' request, and I accept it, am I automatically on their friend list, too ? .. or, do I need to ask them for friend status ?? ... (this 'friend' stuff confuses me, ain't easy being a hermit sometimes) :jointsmile: Rating: 5

[birdgirl73]

I'm pretty sure it's automatic that it becomes a two-way friendship. Let me try it and see. I'll request your friendship and we'll see if you then see me listed as your pal, too, when you accept me.

I have a question myself about the friend situation. If someone "breaks a friendship" does that then send a note of some kind to the person who's lost a friend? I'm not intending to break any friendships, and goodness knows I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. But one of the interesting things about this little feature, or perhaps it's a phenomenon that's unique to mods, is that occasionally members you've never seen before or talked to request friendships.

Let's experiment on this, Reaper. I'll request your friendship. I adore hermits. Then you can break the friendship and we'll see if I get a "Dear Bird" message. That's like a Dear John letter, only much more heartbreakingly cyber-sad. Then we can make up and be friends again, I hope. If we can't, I won't be able to go on living.

[painretreat]

Thanks for the ?'s I/R: I was wondering the same and why it has break-up there, as well. Think I saw a button that says: "Ignore this person!" also! Seems like a slap in the face! Hope this trial works out with Birdgirl, will be nice to see the results!

Are you wondering about 'tags' yet! I am and afraid to ask, yet!


I am as hermit as they come. I go for weeks without people! Tend to tire of 'um! Whenever they have a problem, it is your fault. Not here!

Here, I have something in common with everyone and it feels better! That is a friendship to me! Especially, when you admire the person's thot's, deeds and attitude about things in general!

Hope you are doing well. pr:hippy:

[Nightcrewman]

It's not a dumb question, it confuses the hell out of me as well, bearing in mind I have never used a messaging system of any kind MSN etc.
I am trying to watch and learn B4 (messaging speak, good eh!) making the leap towards humiliation LOL.

Cheers

NCM

[birdgirl73]

OK, well, phase I of our experiment was successful. I requested to befriend Image Reaper and he did indeed appear on my list as a friend. So we have our answer on that.

Image Reaper, next time you're on, go in and break our friendship and we'll see what happens with that. Now that I think of it, the friendship initiator might have to initiate any break, but perhaps not. Be interesting to see. If you discover that you don't have the option to start the break, let me know here and I can try it.

I'm completely from the PC dark ages. Someone said this friendship business is "very My Space," which meant next to nothing to me since I'm not present there. Too old! (And too busy.)

[daihashi]

I'm completely from the PC dark ages. Someone said this friendship business is "very My Space," which meant next to nothing to me since I'm not present there. Too old! (And too busy.)

I'm not complaining, I rather like the new system especially the social groups, but doesn't this COMPLETELY contradict what the board has said in the past in regards to enforcing some social rules?

-- Specifically, the messageboards are reserved for primarily medical marijuana and INFORMATIVE cannabis talk.
if you are not a medical marijuana patient or interested in anything medical marijuana related and ONLY interested in social posting, than these messageboards are NOT for you. If you are posting purely off-topic social threads in the messageboards, consider that your posts will be deleted and your account reset. You must be 18 and over.

What is an off-topic social thread?

Any of the following are considered social threads, "Anyone from ...?" "Rate the avatar above", "Talk about someone.[another member of the forum].", "Where is [another member of the forum.]", threads about any RECREATIONAL marijuana talk, other drugs, any homemade smoking devices and/or how you made them, talking about your pickup from a dealer, and or any thread with content other than medical marijuana or be deemed INFORMATIVE CANNABIS INFORMATION will be considered off-topic social threads and NOT ALLOWED ON THE MESSAGE BOARDS

-- THIS IS NOT A SOCIAL MESSAGE BOARD. NO SOCIAL THREADS.

like I said, I particularly enjoy these new features but it seems fairly obvious that these tools are for nothing more than socializing. Friends lists? Comments/messaging? And "Social" groups which really can be made about anything (although I suspect a mod can remove it, but in that case you're just creating more work for the mods).

This is a legitimate question and not me just bringing up something that's moot. What is the direction cannabis.com is trying to go; right now it seems to be contradicting itself.

[birdgirl73]

You know, that's a very good question. I'm not sure what the line is, to be honest. We mods have wondered, too. We still maintain social areas. I think the overall purpose, even in the areas that seem unrelated, is still supposed to be medicinal cannabis information-sharing, even perhaps underlying those friendships and social groups. I think by virtue of the fact that this place is what is that we still succeed in that.

Be interesting to see if we get any input from our owners here. I'd like to hear their take on this.

[the image reaper]

OK, Birdie, you asked for it ... I tossed ya out like yesterday's newspaper ! :wtf: ... PLEASE COME BACK !

[Mississippi Steve]

You know, that's a very good question. I'm not sure what the line is, to be honest. We mods have wondered, too. We still maintain social areas. I think the overall purpose, even in the areas that seem unrelated, is still supposed to be medicinal cannabis information-sharing, even perhaps underlying those friendships and social groups. I think by virtue of the fact that this place is what is that we still succeed in that.

Be interesting to see if we get any input from our owners here. I'd like to hear their take on this.

I still miss having chat available

[birdgirl73]

OK, Birdie, you asked for it ... I tossed ya out like yesterday's newspaper ! :wtf: ... PLEASE COME BACK !

This was terribly exciting and dramatic. I've always wanted to be tossed out like a birdcage liner by a brilliant and sexy man, and now I've gotten my wish.

You aren't rid of me that fast, though, you heartbreaker. You're never getting away from me, baby. I want you back, and I'm willing to do anything in cyberspace to make that happen. . . .

I requested you back, sweet Reaper. The experiment was a success. You simply disappeared from my list of friends. I didn't get a Dear Bird note or anything. You were simply gone. I first felt it in my heart. . . . Then I noticed the vacancy on my profile list.

Let's never break up again, OK? I really do adore you like few others. I was trying to put a scary Glenn Close-like "Fatal Attraction" spin on that second paragraph above, but I don't think I really succeeded. I'm too silly tonight and have done a bit too much celebrating of my 25th wedding anniversary. Now if I have one wish for the next 25 years, it's to spend them with you!!

Thanks for helping with the experiment, sweet one. Much love to you.

I still miss having chat available

And to you, too, Mississippi Steve, and your home state! Wish I were in that beautiful place right now watching the fish jump under the moonlight out on the Mississippi Sound. I may request my name be changed to Gulfport Birdie. Our family owned a place there for 60 years that was sold the year before Katrina and is now completely gone from the waterfront like so many others. Still breaks my heart in two.

Glad you chimed in about the chat and I hope you'll get your wish. I can't remember when or whether chat'll be returning, but I do know your comment will be read and taken into consideration. I hope you'll get your wish. Take care.