You know, I've been thinking about this. And I've decided that the concept of chivalry itself is outdated. The remnants of 'chivalry' still have a place in our social customs, if both parties can give and accept them with grace and mutual respect. But to me, the word refers to an action done to protect someone weaker than yourself- the OPPOSITE of bullying. As with all things, create true equality so that neither party is truly 'weaker', and you will find that good behaviour lies in the middle, with maybe just a dash of 'awwww how charming' tossed in for flava.