Gandalf, maybe you have something in you that negates The Secret. Maybe the more you hold the goal in your mind, the more you choose the "wrong" path. Or it could be that the theory is bunk.

I watched 60 Minutes last weekend and they had a feature on why the Danes are the happiest people on Earth. One guy's theory is that it is because the Danes are somewhat glum and pessimsitic by nature. They have low expectations, so when things turn out not to be so bad after all, they are really happy about it. I thought this was really funny. But maybe by expecting great things to happen, you set yourself up for disappointment. Or maybe this theory is total bunk too!

I'm sure it is importatnt to hold good things in your mind, work toward them and hope for the best. But it is also important to be realistic about failure and other bad outcomes. There may be no Secret.