When you're depressed

[jimmy8778]

Its quite easy to handle it like any teenage chick and eat lots of sweets :hippy:
candy barssss

i really hope this is a quote from one of the best movies to ever be experienced, a.k.a. Super Troopers.

and anyone who has not seen it needs too, and if you're a hater, then you haven't seen it either.

But hanging out with the people i want, i usually only get depressed when i am not around people. Honestly my depression gets cured when im in the company of those that im not around. It may also be that because not being around people makes me depressed, its a vicious cycle.

jimmy8778 Reviewed by jimmy8778 on 06-14-2008. When you're depressed What do you do when you're depressed? Pretty short and to the point, but really, please answer the question. Rating: 5

[DAY-DREAMER-MAN]

stoned sex always helps if I'm depressed:thumbsup:

[Coelho]

I just go hang out with a pretty girl, that usually helps me see the light.

Well... if i had a pretty girl to hang out with, i wouldnt be depressed to start with...

[cygnustaxt]

listen to some good music, I'm in kind of depressed right now so im listening to some radiohead. About to go smoke a bowl then i'll probably come in and play some guitar and then some xbox. If that doesn't cheer me up at least a little then I don't know what will.

[AR15]

Coelho, smok3y, killerweed420, XXBlaze of DesiréXX, Sublimation, Reefer Rogue, TurnyBright, DAY-DREAMER-MAN, cygnustaxt, I'm glad for you all that those things can lift your spirits.

Thats what I like to do,I sit outside and sunbathe,feels so good to get some sun on your skin.I usually take some lemonade or something and just chill.My backyard is set up with a table and my radio,I always burn outside,but sometimes I just sit out there and just catch some sun.Or go beach.That feels good too.....Not swimming,just sorta go out to where the water is chest high when I bend my knees. I just wade and float around.

I don't get depressed. But when I get slightly down I focus on my goals in life and take action. Any action towards that goal.

I go outside and sit in the sun, or if it's nighttime or rainy, I go sit under my big lamp with a bowl and talk to the plants. Well, I don't really talk to them, but they cheer me up. So does my silly dog, who always makes me laugh.

Creating music, art, reading, thinking and writing are all anti-depressants for me. Hiking, biking, kayaking, swimming, being in deep woods, doing nothing, sitting by a river... ummm.... oh yeah

Listening to Journey "Don't Stop Believing," and singing along at the freaking top of my lungs. Please, refrain from asking me why... that shit just does it to me.

Hunting, fishing, Camping, workn on stuff up north, throwing knives.

All that stuff or type of stuff does help. The only problem, is it's a short term fix. I find that focusing on any number of goals I have, or going out and doing relaxing things will make me feel better at the moment, but the problem is that it only makes me forget about the problems for a short while. The next day or whatever, they're there again.

I don't typically get too depressed anymore. I've been beat up by life enough to know that it could always be worse, but when I'm feeling a little down and blue I'll vape up a bit of some sativa smoke and sit down with my guitar and write some music.

or Play/talk with my dog. (I've talked to her as if she was a human since I've had her for the last 8 years. So it's not too unusual for me)

or I'll go to the gym and work out...

or I like to go to the Zoo

or I enjoy having open discussions with people in attempts of educating and hopefully, even if it's slight, removing some of the ignorance from this world

Really there's alot of things I will do when I'm depressed but the hardest part when you're feeling down is actually being able to get off your butt to try to make yourself feel better. When you're depressed it's hard to muster together some motivation to improve your state of mind.

edit: I forgot to add this.. this is a big one for me.

working with handicapped children. I love the handicap and feel that they are pure of heart. It makes it hard not to have your spirits uplifted by someone who is happy with what they have. Honestly the most genuine, caring and loving people people I've ever met in my life have been handicapped.

It sounds weird but I strive to become more and more like them everyday. Not their handicap's but rather what they represent as pure, loving, indiscriminate individuals.

Do something for someone else. Help a friend or stranger out, volunteer at a food bank, humane society or charity thrift shop, even just play the game at freerice.com and feed someone who needs the food.

Go for a walk in a green place, stoned if possible. Call an old friend. Read a good novel or interesting book of your choice (libraries are free). Write, paint, draw, sculpt. Start a garden (good therapy and food prices will go up). Get a kitten and or puppy. Clean the house. Put on "good" upbeat music- whatever that is for you- middle eastern, reggae, disco....

- Granny

Helping people is a great thing. I do like to help people, however that might be part of my problem. I think I put others before myself too much. I need to learn to say "no" to my friends and worry more about myself. Friends tend to come at me for help with particular things (usually computers) and I'll help them no problem, right away. I'll put aside whatever I wanted to do during that time to go help them. Then it seems that they like to take advantage of that. Any computer problem they come to me and expect me to fix it right away. I don't like to charge my friends for shit, I like to help them out, but the problem is that they seem to take advantage of it. That's something that really bothers me because if I have a problem, I'd rather not pester friends about it, I'd rather try and fix it myself. And if a friend happens to go out of their way and fix it for me, then I'm extremely grateful for it. I won't start calling them everytime I run into a problem. But my friends seem to think it's nothing. I really just wish that they wouldn't take advantage of me like that.

As for helping random people who need help. I've done service (spending time helping out the general public), and similar things, but it doesn't seem to do much for me. I don't see results. I know certain things I've done have made a difference to people, but it almost feels like wasted time. It's kind of a numbing thing. It does get me down to see the world they live in. It just seems useless to me somehow, most people I've dealt with are substance abusers, and they're really fucked, no joke. It seems no matter what is done for them, they're stuck using. It's something where I feel I don't make a difference, I'd rather not deal with it. That's my outlook on that.

I have this mix of uplifting Bob Marley tunes, and In the summer I'll drive around aimlessly with the windows down listening to it.

Always cheers me up.

I LOVE to get off work when it's still light out. It gets hot, but I love rolling down all the windows, going the backroads back home, blasting music, speeding on an open road back home. If gas wasn't so expensive, I'd really just drive for hours, aimlessly as you say.

These are the approaches I find work best:

Exercise, always combined with music
Sunshine
Sex (when possible)
Getting out and volunteering, which is a quick perspective-changer
Doing something creative, like painting, stained glass, singing, piano-playing, or embroidery
Spending time with my son or my baby nephew
Spending time with my dogs and cats
Journaling or talking to someone, usually my spouse but also my dad or my best girlfriend
Eating right and drinking lots of water
Staying away from refined sugar and flour and not drinking alcohol
Getting enough rest, although, to be honest, when I'm depressed, a desire to want to sleep 14 hours a day is one of the main ways I know I'm in the pits

For me, prescribed antidepressants, while I know they work well for many thousands of people, are not ideal. I hate they way they make me feel, and they have nasty side-effects. I think folks who're seriously depressed need to consider them, however, and if I were incapacitated with depression, I'd do the same.

The worst part about depression, at least to me--and I get it mostly during the short days during the wintertime--is that, when it's present, it's uniquely hard to pull myself upright and get out and tackle any of the things on my list above. Taking those first couple of steps toward positive action is always a challenge.

Exercise isn't so much of an anti-depressant as it is a stress reliever. I do exercise every day, and during the week, after work, I find it's the one thing that can really calm me down from whatever might have happened up to that point that day. And yes, always with music. Music is a huge part of my life.

Sunshine does really help. At lunch, I like to be outside in the sun. Funny you bring this up, it's one thing that kind of gets to me. I don't have windows in my office. I hate being stuck inside all day when it's sunny out. So when I get home, I make sure all the blinds are open to let light in. I live with 2 friends who smoke. One of them is really persistant on having the blinds closed. As soon as he closes the blinds, it really makes me sad. Sorry if that sounds lame, but frankly, that's the best way I can put it. I hate living like I'm in a fucking cave. I don't want to have to go outside to see the sun. We have windows for a reason... He knows how I feel on it, yet he still does it. It's not about blocking the heat, him and my other roommate run the AC constantly. It's not about getting caught smoking; no one will really see us, and if they did, they really wouldn't care. I don't know if it's that paranoid type stoner state of mind or what, but he knows I like them open, and he usually closes them.

Sex...

Now there's an issue. I don't like commitment. I hate having to let people know where I'm at, accounting for myself, etc. So, I tend to like being single. I hate pickups because it feels so empty and cold. Afterwards, I want to gtfo. I almost always insist on going to her place becuase I can't stand waking up next to some random girl I met the night before. So I bounce out as quickly as I can in the morning, even if I have to walk home. Otherwise it seems when I want to spend time with a girl for more than sex it seems her friend is into me and she isn't. I don't get it. When I end up with her friend, it just creates problems, and if I don't and still try and go out with her, it still doesn't work out. And then there's the missed chances. Those can kill me. I used to have this policy where I didn't date or screw any person I worked with or remotely worked with since if it went bad it can make work dreadful. I learned that that is a horrible policy. Anyone who reads this, trust me, just go for it. If it turns out bad it turns out bad, just deal with it then. I'd now rather have more awkward moments at work than missed chances. In any case, it never seems to work out right.

Eating right, drinking water (I drink at least 2x 1.5 liters everyday) I got those down. It goes with my exercise, and I do feel good about it. It helps to feel healthy. As for alcohol, that's my high, I drink. I do stay hydrated, I don't get hangovers. Worst I get is that I wake up drunk, but either I'll sober up awake and be fine, or I'll sleep it off and wake up fine. I love alcohol. I like weed too, but I don't smoke regularly. I used to smoke daily, but it's bad for my personality like that. I don't get things done, and I can get really paranoid. I usually only smoke as a nightcap, usually when I'm drink already. Other times than that, I start thinking of things that get me depressed, smoking sober can make me a pessimist almost.

I try to get enough rest. If I don't, I really feel dead during and at the end of the day. If I don't get enough sleep the night before, usually after work I end up falling asleep for a few hours, waking up, doing whatever, then going to bed for some hours or so. My sleeping schedule can get pretty wack.

I really don't like pills (unless they're t3's)... but really, I don't like perscription medication. I have a bias towards it. I do not want a bunch of side effects. And it doesn't feel natural for me. Since you've mentioned them, have you been on any (and if I'm going to far by asking this, then I'm sorry and you don't have to answer)? I've never tried any, and I'd rather not, but I still wonder how it might be.

i really hope this is a quote from one of the best movies to ever be experienced, a.k.a. Super Troopers.

and anyone who has not seen it needs too, and if you're a hater, then you haven't seen it either.

But hanging out with the people i want, i usually only get depressed when i am not around people. Honestly my depression gets cured when im in the company of those that im not around. It may also be that because not being around people makes me depressed, its a vicious cycle.

My friends are a part of the problem, so I distance myself. And when I'm alone, I can get really depressed. I know exactly what you're talking about. It's the balance that I need to find.

If you just feel down, then going outside and doing something will make you feel better. A walk or a bike ride.

If you are down about soomething in particular, then taking even just one tiny step toward fixing it will make you feel better, even if it is just making a plan for something to do tomorrow.

I think this is the best advice I can use. I think my biggest problem is I give too much of a fuck. I need to stop giving a shit and just be more myself. Do more what I want to do, say more exactly how I feel. I'm scared I might come off as an asshole, but I think it's the first step. If I can get this crap off my chest and just be myself and not care how people see me I think I'd be a lot happier.



Thanks for all of your input. At least talking about it helps. And this does help address what I need.

[Dutch420]

Smokin always helps, I am very new to smokin so i always get a massive hit when i moved i was heart broken, i smashed a bowl as soon as i got off the plane and i felt great, but it still hurts some times so i always keep that lovly earth creation next to me. i smoked up, and i really forget the names of citys, girl friends, family members, i dont think i ll ever touch a priscrepstion pill agian, weed helps straight up.

[Dutch420]

well, i didnt read your post Ar15, as you can see my two posts are minutes apart, i am new to the fourms sorry, anyways, if you find a certin thing you like do it, dont look back at lost chances make new ones,