was typing this and it disappeared! maybe buy her a vibrator and encourage her to use it with or without you and without shame! She can climax without penetration, if that is an issue, mentally. She can experiment until she knows what please's her and how you can do it! Even if you have to use the vibrator on her! Once you bond with great sex, she won't leave you over pot, maybe! Don't take my word for it, but I know it would create what sounds like an ultimate bond. If all is what you say and you sound pretty honest. Plus, a lot of things in foreplay are simple, erotic and not sexual, yet very stimulating that by the time u touch her, she may almost climax before you get started! Once, she knows what it is! I could climax just thinking of the one I love--so, for me alot of it is in the head! So, the counselor is certainly the right track. Once, she has a real climax, she surely won't want to go without anymore! I sure couldn't, unless I had to. And you, if you don't get satisfied with her doing so--well, it ain't just her then, is it? Lots of us quit pot in the 70's to have our children and some still aren't, cause the kids are still living at home and they want to set a good example. My friend's daughter is 22 and at home. They have told her about their past. I don't see why they can't do it now, since it wasn't a daily thing anyway, but it is their choice! I kind of liked the closet idea and expected one of the guys to say, use your hand in the closet and a Bud in the bed! lol just a joke! I know this is serious. But, this is suppose to be one of the best pleasures in life, I am not sure I'd give pot up for a climax! It is a toss up, but i've had a lot more practice with sex!! Continue to pray for you and I do hope this is not a long ordeal for you both. She will love it when she has one! You may have to take another honeymoon. There is also a book, long ago called, "The G spot!" You might want to read it and see if perhaps there is a little more you can do! This is the ultimate bonding a new marriage really needs. Once you have that bond, I bet you can tell her anything--it is special!