look son, i'm not trying to hurt you in any way, i'm trying to help you. i could have been like everyone else and judged you and ignored you, then you would have been offended when no-one responded, you wouldn't have been offended at me 'cause i would have ceased knowing of your existence once i judged you and moved on, but you WOULD have been offended if no-one had answered your call. i'm also not telling you to be a people pleaser, i'm actually promoting the exact opposite.

the biggest problem in being 19 and from a good family that has provided well for you is that you haven't learned to provide for yourself yet. now, you can either be offended by that statement or you can understand that ALL 19 year olds have a lot to learn. if you allow yourself to be offended by a simple truth you cheat yourself out of learning something about yourself.

denial is an extremely powerful force in a persons life because we all need to feel like we're ok so, when we do stuff, in our head we say 'this is ok', even if that means getting high with our friends at 14 of 15 or even 19. the fact is that the human brain doesn't finish growing until the mid 20's and messing with the chemistry of an organ that will control the rest of your life before it is full grown is a little foolish.

frankly son, i was extremely lucky to survive my own bad choices, many of my friends didn't, in fact, i would say that 80 % of the people i was getting high with when i was 19 are either in prison or dead, most are dead and some of them have been dead for 20 years.

it's like integrity, to have integrity means being willing to obey the rules even when no-one is looking, otherwise, you're just full of shit.
so being educated and speaking like an ignorant person is dishonest, it proves you don't understand yet. you're still trying to figure out who you, the man, is.

like i said, it's easy to be offended, denial wants you to be offended.
try asking yourself 'is there ANY truth to what he is saying?', if your able to be honest and see SOME truth in what i've said then there is hope for you yet. denial is what's telling you you're not dumbing yourself down when you speak like this "haha thanks man, yea i wont give up ill keep trying, wen do u think the latest u can put a plant outside? and i kno its says keep ur plant about 8'' away from the light. mines like 5 inches from the CFL is that ok? "

have the courage to be proud of your education, hold your head up high and speak proper english, not because someone told you to, not because you think you should, no, speak proper english because you don't want to sound like an ignorant f**k. you'd be shocked at the number of people who have written you off because thier first impression of you was as a hippity hoppity nitwit who went through 12 years of school and STILL can't speak english. and you don't know they wrote you off either 'cause they just don't bother with you.

truthfully, in the 2 years you've been visiting this site, how many times did you visit that link i put up for you? that's the FAQ, that's where you start when you have a question, and sometimes your exact question won't be there. when that happens, keep reading.
i've been comeing to this site for a week and i found it, and i've been interested in growing for about 9 months and i know WAY more than you do. does that mean i'm better or smarter than you?
i don't think so, it's just that i'm 52 not 19, so i learned a long long time ago that if i have a question, i don't need anyone to answer it for me, i can find the answer myself. what that has done for me is instill within me a certain knowledge that i can learn damned near anything i want to and when i hit the wall and can't figure something out, i humbly ask for help 'cause i know i don't know everything. shit man, that's why i picked my f**king name, to remind myself not to get to full of myself.

try to remember that i'm the ONLY person who even bothered to answer you, and i DID answer your questions, and i showed you where to find answers for yourself.

'give a man a fish and he eats for a day, teach a man to fish and he eats every day'

anyway, keep comeing back and keep growing, peace is at the core of the canabis culture, that's why for over 40 years people my age have been saying 'peace man'