yeah, i feel the OP - i'm like that with my boyfriend and him drinking, except he's an alcoholic. it's something i have to deal with if i want the relationship to work, because relationships are just that: work!

honestly, though, if you're stressing to the point that you're feeling physical effects, maybe it would be best to go talk to a therapist and figure out where this irrational feeling comes from. you're perfectly aware and informed about the drug, yet you still have such a strong reaction to the thought of your girlfriend smoking it ... honestly, it sounds to me like there's a mental issue with you. not saying anything bad, but that strong of a reaction is kind of worrisome. maybe if she was shooting up smack, but smoking reefer? no way.

if you care about this girl and want to make things work, go talk to someone about the issues. you're feeling these things for a reason, but if you want to continue dating this girl, it's up to you to find out why you feel the way you do, and i highly doubt you'll find a satisfactory answer on a board with a bunch of pot smokers. just sayin'. :jointsmile: