right now i love mr.clandestine, thank you, i have felt very alone in my hermie situation, struggled to come to grips, confusion sets in, do i blame myself? was she born that way? will she confuse her sisters? phew, its stressful on a parent, glad i got some meds fer that well she's in the dark now, hopefully in a few days, when the time comes, itll be painless, hurt me more than itll hurt her and all that. it has been very hard finding hermie info, other than bad stereotypes and musical references such as some that i have used, so i relied on deep intuitive thinking and some heavy tokin sessions, i feel as expert as i figure i need to be now. look for the book at amazon.com muhfuckas!! :stoned: