Quote Originally Posted by do it twice
Any of you parents out there used to think you never wanted kids, but things changed when you found out?
I won't say that my wife and I weren't wanting children, but it was way much more of an afterthought. We certainly didn't plan on having a child at such a young age. But when we found out, we knew we would have to play with the cards that we were being dealt... and our whole mindset changed from there. We went from drinking, doing drugs, and partying all night long to a much more relaxed lifestyle almost overnight. I haven't been 'wasted' drunk in years, and now I absolutely shun drug use... well, with the exception of one.

I admit that I miss hanging out with some of my closest buddies & spending all hours of the night at bars, clubs, and such... but there's no way I'd change anything if I were given the choice. I've grown so attached to my little boy in the last three years that I honestly can't picture life without him... and I don't try to. I'm much more interested now in knowing/finding out what the future holds, and less concerned with how things could have been different in the past.

This whole ordeal also brought my wife and I closer than we ever had been before in our relationship. We're a family now, and we are getting to enjoy doing things that families are supposed to do. Instead of going out and spending tons of money on cars, expensive jewelry, luxury cruises, etc., we've invested in our first house, and made investments in other places, and we're just now starting to see some really nice returns on a few of the investments. This never would have happened if we were still living life in the fast-lane.

Having a kid will certainly change you, but in most cases for the better. However your life unfolds, I wish you and your fiance the best of luck and all the happiness in the world!
Mr. Clandestine Reviewed by Mr. Clandestine on . To Parent, or Not To Parent that is the question on my mind. My fiance has always said, he doesn't want kids... do you think this will ever change? sometimes I think I don't want kids for a number of reasons: expenses, the mess (he also says he would NEVER change a diaper or clean vomit), the lack of alone time I would get with my hunny, My life would be devoted to kids now not myself and my lover, not to mention this is a fucked up world we live in... do I really want to bring a life into this world with all the risks Rating: 5