i have had to cover for my dad over the years, i would never tell my mom who is a recoverd alchy and believes anyhting mind alterting is the devil. My pops was not cool about it ever, to this day he still gets on my case even though he smokes, if my mom knew she would divorce him.. ITS A very bad situation expecially when you had a freind with a big mouth when u were 16. live and learn. but anyways i think the best way to handle the situation is to tell your wife why you smoke and explain that your not a harcore drug abuser and if she wants to to quit that you will if you truly care about her, if you let marijuana intervein with stuff thats most important in your life, i believe that proves that you are in early stages of being a future addict. idk just my 2 cents, coming from a pot smokers son :thumbsup: