Parenting Teenagers - I'm Busted!

[Droplet]

I say come out with the fact you smoke it, then offer it to everyone

[happiestmferoutthere]

Hopefully I won't be viewed as much of a hypocrite for telling him he can't break the law, while I'm upstairs in the library with the door locked and an incense burning to cover up telltale odors.

Really, with teenagers it doesn't matter what you do.... you will always be a hypocrite. I suggest you get real used to the word. LOL! If you stay out til 2, and insist they come home at midnight, your a hypocrite. If you ask them to eat their veggies, and you dont ,your a hypocrite. If you ask them to clean up after themselves, and you forget to pick up your mess, your a hypocrite. Frankly I don't think you can be as an effective of a parent if your not somewhat hypocritical. I mean, You cant let them do whatever they want just because you did it. You are trying to raise a responsible adult ... not a party animal! (Thats what your 20's are for!!)

[420_24/7]

Youre kid's almost old enough to make his own decisions.
IMHO you should just talk to him, tell him you smoke; tell him the good and the bad about weed; tell him that the legality is not so much of an issue as the morality (meaning that if something is illegal, but it isnt morally wrong, one should give themselves the right to decide whether they would like to do it.)
Then after all of this, if he seems open minded, offer to smoke with him. He's not really an adolescent any more. My thinking is that he's most likely going to try it sometime in his life. Why not have that time be with his father in a safe secure environment, instead of out somewhere where he could get caught.

edit: Hey happiestmferoutthere, that thing is your sig reminded me of this thing my friend always says.
"The beatings will continue until moral improves."
idk if its a quote or what, i just think its funny.

[Mr. Clandestine]

Really, with teenagers it doesn't matter what you do.... you will always be a hypocrite. I suggest you get real used to the word. LOL! If you stay out til 2, and insist they come home at midnight, your a hypocrite. If you ask them to eat their veggies, and you dont ,your a hypocrite. If you ask them to clean up after themselves, and you forget to pick up your mess, your a hypocrite. Frankly I don't think you can be as an effective of a parent if your not somewhat hypocritical. I mean, You cant let them do whatever they want just because you did it. You are trying to raise a responsible adult ... not a party animal! (Thats what your 20's are for!!)

This is very true. It's when I think back on all the hard times I gave my parents that I really begin to see why rules needed to be followed... regardless of how relevant I thought they were. Oh, and by the way, my party animal years were pretty much spent during late teens and early 20s. After I got out of college is when my youngun was born.

'Tis cool though, now I can focus all my energy on how I'm going to become one of the "cool dads" when my boy is old enough to judge me! I'll try not to be too hypocritical, though... because I should know as well as anyone that 'kids will be kids'. :jointsmile:

[rebgirl420]

I've always known my parents smoked. Their old hippie/bikers. My parents are both hard working people. My father working two jobs and my mother working full time also. They were always honest with me and when I was 16 they began to smoke with me.

I was smoking for 4-5 years before that however. It's a great bonding experience if your kids can handle it.

[fiddyonefiddy]

If you have to keep something like pot smoking hidden from your wife, you're not a man - so don't expect a 17 year old to have any respect for you once he knows how pussy-whipped you are.

im gonna have to go with this comment, not to be rude about it but this comment is the reality of the matter.
i wouldnt be married to anyone who lied to me about such a trivial deal because they would lie about other things.
honesty is always the best policy, my kids know i smoke and i have had the talk with them about it and the sex talk too .
i told my wife i was worthless and so did all my friends and told her she was totally phucking up by getting married to me and that it would never last. they had a pool and no one bet over six month's.
it has been 17 years now.

[Storm Crow]

"If the truth won't do, then something is wrong!"

Be as honest as possible. The chances are that your kids already have experienced cannabis. And if not them, then their close friends! (Do a search on teen usage!)

I have never hidden my cannabis use from my (now adult) kids. It was a "secret" on the same order that "My Dad sometimes walks around in his underwear". It was just-"Mom and Dad smoked another kind of plant material in some of their cigarettes." It was never a big deal.

May I also suggest using a vaporizer? They cut WAY down on the smell! I have a Vapor Brothers- reasonably inexpensive and good quality. It gets rid of the "smoker's cough", too.

If you have teenage kids, your use may be medical. If so, hit the link in my sig for studies to support your usage. - Granny:hippy:

[blizz]

i have had to cover for my dad over the years, i would never tell my mom who is a recoverd alchy and believes anyhting mind alterting is the devil. My pops was not cool about it ever, to this day he still gets on my case even though he smokes, if my mom knew she would divorce him.. ITS A very bad situation expecially when you had a freind with a big mouth when u were 16. live and learn. but anyways i think the best way to handle the situation is to tell your wife why you smoke and explain that your not a harcore drug abuser and if she wants to to quit that you will if you truly care about her, if you let marijuana intervein with stuff thats most important in your life, i believe that proves that you are in early stages of being a future addict. idk just my 2 cents, coming from a pot smokers son :thumbsup: