BuzzUK: I work as a housekeeper. Tuesday night was my first time working for a couple, and the husband was supposed to be at work and I was being shown what my new duties were with them. Halfway through scrubbing the floors of the Master bathroom, I heard footsteps behind me, and I thought it was the wife, but it was the guy. He put his hand over my mouth so I couldn't speak and started........... um....... I guess the best way to say it would be he started spanking me?

Then his wife came back in, and (how do I say this on a canncom forum without getting my post deleted?) they started engaging in "marital" activities. Sometime during that, he moved his hands and started asphyxiating me. In my head, the whole time, a factual report was playing, going something along the lines of, "He's cutting off my ability to inhale. I'm not able to breathe. This is not conducive to my continued existence." but I never panicked. I tried telling him to stop, but I never, you know, punched or kicked or any of the other things I should have. *shrugs* Then after he and his wife were done, he just gave me a weird kiss on the forehead and went back to work and I went back to cleaning the bathroom.

The acts themselves I don't have that much of a problem with. My roommate likes getting choked during sex, and whatever, I don't have a problem with it. That's fine. I understand everyone has their own thing they enjoy. What I really minded is that they did not ask me if it was okay or give me a chance to excuse myself from the incident. I'd never met this guy before and it was more than inappropriate for this STRANGER to just assume that he had the right to do to me whatever he wanted.

I know that I should call the police, but once again, I feel so passive. He didn't do any lasting harm, and as I said, I don't feel traumatized by the experience. Yes, he needs to learn where boundaries are, but I think dragging the law into it would be unnecessary.

Needless to say, at the least, I'm not working for them ever again.