Can something work TOO well?

[bluebird]

StinkyAttic: Yes, I agree, there has to be a balance. I'm really glad that not freaking out was the RIGHT choice in this case, and that everything turned out okay.

Also, I know it wasn't just the pot that inhibited my ability to react. I was NOT high at the time, I had come down from the marijuana about an hour beforehand. I know it was still having its anti-anxiety affects (I can smoke at noon, go to class at one, and still have the anit-anxiety affects well into 6pm as very low levels of THC are still floating through my bloodstream). Another part of it was probably the lack of good sleep the night before and I guess the shock I felt at being treated like that.

Parts of me are still really confused about what happened, and I'll probably end up talking to my therapist about it to see how to better handle things.

[bluebird]

Dragonrider: Yeah, it wasn't just the weed, probably tiredness/exhaustion too. But......... that was just too much passiveness, I agree.

[jagarr]

@ bluebird:

holy. fcking. shit.
holy shit.
i am so creeped out i am frozen in my chair.
i dont think it was the weed - i think it was just how completely ass-backwards unbelievable that situation was. i'd blame raw shock.
don't ever go back to that house again =(

[bluebird]

Yeah, "ass-backwards" situation sounds about right, Jagarr. And no, I'm not planning on ever going back. They're crazy.

[dragonrider]

I can see how maybe the shock at the surreal nature of the whole thing may have shut down your normal responses. I think that not freaking out during the whole thing may hae been the safest thing to do, but the fact that you didn't just run out as fast as you could immediately aftarward may mean you were having trouble processing it at the time. I'm not psychologist, so I really have no idea, but that part seems odd.

[Coelho]

^^^^ agree... and Bluebird, i didnt thought the situation youve passed was SO weird... im very glad that everything went OK to you, and no harm was done. And i hope you dont be too worried about it. :thumbsup:

[NextLineIsMine]

can you just tell us the situation without being all cryptic man, im all curious now, I just want to know!

[stinkyattic]

You know, if you work for an agency you should DEFINITELY let the agency know. That is completely unacceptable behaviour and IS SEXUAL ASSAULT. No doubt you're not the first, and no doubt you won't be the last if they aren't made to know that what they are doing is ILLEGAL. What if you had been raped in the past, or molested- how horribly traumatic an experience would it have been THEN? And with the very high percentage of women who do have some sort of unwanted sexual experience in their pasts, no doubt some poor chick going unsuspectingly to work for those disgusting people will be spending a little extra time on the therapist's sofa as a result. Please, for the sake of the other women who have/will work for them, DO SOMETHING.

[bluebird]

Stinky: Yes, I understand everything you've just said. No, I don't work for an agency. I'm a college student, and I basically run my own personal business. If I were with an agency, of course I'd tell them what happened. As it is, I don't.

I know what you mean about how this would have been very traumatizing to other people. I have been sexually assaulted before in the past and that was *very* traumatic. I've dealt with some very awful people before, and part of why I'm not as upset as I should be is that I know that what he did could have been so much worse. He could have raped me in addition to just inflicting pain. He could have not let go of my neck and seriously injured or killed me. He could have, but he didn't, and I'm not permanently damaged. (Permanence of damage is kind of how I measure how bad situations really were afterwards.) There have been many people who have done much worse to me, and at some point you start judging things differently. Nothing about this experience was good at all, but at the same time, I'm thankful it wasn't worse. I know how easily it could have been.

I DO know that it is within everyone's best interest if I go to the police, and I've been thinking about it since I read your response. It is the best thing for me to do, I think.

[stinkyattic]

At the very least, the couple WILL get a visit and be interviewed by the authorities. You may decline to press charges, but they will get a wake-up call that they can NEVER do that again.

Just to be a bit cynical... NOTHING against you, but to put it in perspective: They could have paid a prostitute the same amount of money to do the sexual asphixyating/watching to her, but they wouldn't have gotten their china dusted now, would they?

And also remember that in a fetish situation like that, there is a distinct chance that it will progress/escalate; what happens when just a little choking of a stranger simply doesn't turn them on any more... how long before their little game gets more serious?