Oh, damn it all to hell!! I dont want to leave her. Also cause more than likely if I leave before she passes she will probably have to be put in a home. They've been looking for someone for months now and theres no one. Thank Yall for the good wishes, and I hope everything works out for both of us too. Ideally, id find a job shortly before she passes and start the new one shortly after. i can afford to take off a few weeks, maybe a month, but the last time it took me 8 months to find another job. I didnt choose this line of work, It kinda fell into my lap, and I figure since im good at it, and I like the living arrangements, I just kept doing it. now that Im on my own, id like a job where I can go home at night. I want to get back into office manager/ secretarial cause its fun, fast paced and I'd get to go home in the evenings. I am bilingual, I can dance circles around computers, have great phone skills, but Im illegal so its hard to find a job. I know the right thing to do is to stay, and my karma will reward me later, but I cannot be homeless.. its just not an option. Geo said its a normal severance pay for this line of work, but its just not enough. Im not gonna ask these people to keep paying me for months after she passes or goes into hospice care or a home. Damn, i dont know what to do.