Don't you hate it when someone flat-out lies to you?

[stinkyattic]

dude females ALWAYS lie. u cant trust them.....
mainly b/c im the best liar i know haha

And somewhere, she is saying the exact same thing about you. Grow up kid.

[Spoken Word]

Your Mom felt like she had to lie to you about this matter? WHY was she reluctant to share this HAPPY news with you? "If the truth won't do, then something is wrong." Why did she feel that the truth "wouldn't do"? You might want to think about that for a while.

"What bothers me is that she's living with him and if they break up....it's serious."

"What bothers me is that she is living with him" Now that's a heavy statement. Is Mom supposed to live like a nun? Get your approval for how she lives her life? Hey man, she has a life beyond you! She should be able to pursue happiness just like everyone else. Give her her chance! And why the talk of them breaking up? They just moved in together! Unless the guy is an ass, sounds like you are just borrowing trouble!

And often, because of pension/welfare/Social Security rules, it is financially better for an older couple to remain unmarried! So many older couples just "live in sin", even though they have a solid commitment to each other, rather than lose the money!

Mom is an adult and so are you. So call Mom up and ask her "Like when were you going to tell me the good news about you and ____?" Laugh about it. And let her live her life!- Granny:hippy:

I've known about the boyfriend for a while. She missed christmas and new years with her family and vacationed with him. Which is fine by me, like you said I have to let her live. I'm not taking the "jealous son" stance here, storm crow. What bothers me is that I find out through someone else. Almost as if she's keeping it from her whole family. And then my grandmother acts as if she doesn't know when I've noticed that my grandmother is babying her like she does when my mother is going through something.

Going through something??? like you said, IT'S GREAT NEWS!!!! she found someone that makes her happy.. and if i know my mother, it's a GREAT guy. but you see, that's what bothers me granny, that she doesn't share that great news with me...

Why doesn't she? Because she thinks I have this complex where I can't see my mother with anyone else. Which I garuntee you is false. I have nothing but positive intentions and love for someone who makes my mother happy.....HONESTLY!.

So I just talked to her and she gets nervous and continues to lie to me. She's telling me that she doens't live with a guy, she stays with a friend.
You see what I mean? She can't just be like "yes, im sorry jeff. I thought it was better to keep it from you. But im great, he makes me happy and I'm working on getting my own apartment"

my mother is very wealthy by the way and so is he.

but yea, she insists on denying that she's living with a supposed boyfriend. she even told me that she vacationed with a group of friends. hahahahahahahahahah like if i was born yesterday.

but what can you do? in the end, everyone has secrets. like someone said, I take it with a grain of salt. She knows it bothered me and that's all i can do. I wasn't looking for trouble... I was on the phone with the person who told me and I was reading up on cann.com so when I hung up, i just decided to make a thread about it.

sorry for the rant.. I appreciate everyone's SERIOUS reply.

and yes, i didn't mean "hate"...especially when it comes to family.

it just makes me mad

[napolitana869]

maybe she's concerned about hurting you, even if it's something that you would be fine with. Mothers worry about things like that. In her case it's causing more trouble, but hopefully she'll come around.
I've only had one person who I really cared about lie to me. He was my first serious boyfriend and he turned out to be a pathalogical lier. It hurts when someone you love feels the need to deceive you