Yeah, I think you understand what I am getting at here, Danish, and sarah_louise, that is a remarkable thing to say that all Westerners are too lazy and slovenly for Laxmi. You know nothing about my life and many other Westerners so you shouldn't judge us all by your own standards of housekeeping and work ethics... anyway, thanks for all good advice I am really trying to develop in relationship areas but progress is slow and difficult. I just will continue pressing forward.