Long Distance Relationship

[Metaphor]

So ive known this girl for well over three years. Honestly, shes the greatest girl ive ever been with. We were in an pretty serious relationship in 05-06' but in the summer of 06 she moved from ny to florida. She had to go because her father got a better job opportunity and although he wasnt exactly poor or anything it was something he could not pass up.

At first i thought we would have to break up and go separate ways, never to cross paths again. To some extent this was true. She only came up to ny twice since she moved. The first time i didnt even see her because i thought it would hurt too much. The second time she stayed at my house for about a week or so over the summer. For that time things were great, just like they used to be.

Anyway, that was the summer and before she went to college. Now shes in a dorming in a new college, making a bunch of new friends. Basicly starting a new life. In a way im glad for her, she needs to move on and all that but fuck. She kinda just left me in the dust.

For about two weeks ive been trying to call her just to talk and tell her that i miss her but she never picks her phone up. The one time she picked up her phone after i said hey the first thing she said was 'oh, i thought you were so and so because i was just texting him' she abruptly hung up shortly after at 9:30 b/c 'she was tired'

On top of that one day when i signed on aim she signed off right after me, then i didnt see her on for a few days. I thought it was a little shady seeing as how shes the one whos always on when im the one who rarley. So i put her name on my other buddy list, the one where i talk to people that i dont know in real life, and voila, it turns out she blocked me.

Anyway after a few more days of frantic calls and text messages to no avail i figured it was time to formalize this 'break up' so i wrote her a long sincere message to her on facebook (yea i know but it was the only way i could reach her). I slept on it but no response yet. Right now it feels like im in purgatory. I dont want to do anything really, not even smoke, jerk off, i dont even feel like going to class (but im gunna do it anyway)

I dont know what i really expect any of you people to say, Its just that i didnt think i would feel this fuckin empty without someone who already hasnt physically been there. Maybe some of you have been in a long distance relationship, is there any key to keeping it together? i know everyone says communication communication communication but its kinda tough when she dosent pick up her phone or talk to me on aim.

I feel so fuckin stupid for thinking that one day things would go back to the way they were.

sorry for the long read but i dont really have anyone else to tell

Metaphor Reviewed by Metaphor on 11-28-2007. Long Distance Relationship So ive known this girl for well over three years. Honestly, shes the greatest girl ive ever been with. We were in an pretty serious relationship in 05-06' but in the summer of 06 she moved from ny to florida. She had to go because her father got a better job opportunity and although he wasnt exactly poor or anything it was something he could not pass up. At first i thought we would have to break up and go separate ways, never to cross paths again. To some extent this was true. She only came Rating: 5

[psychocat]

I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear but you will get over it and realise that it isn't the end but simply a new begining. Long distance relationships rarely work because of the fact that you can't do all the things that you can if you just live down the road from each other. If you look around you and recognise that you are not alone then you will find it easier to move on and find someone more suitable .
Stay strong and make the most of your freedom , in time you will meet someone who shares your goals and dreams.

[Twentyinches]

Hey bro I feel your pain, that really sucks ass. I had something similar happen to me. I moved to a neighboring state, so about 3 hours away and well...things were fine but that was over the summer. Once school started back up (this was a while ago lol) she turned into a diff person and avoided me all together.

I'de hate to say this, because I know it doesnt apply to all girls but when they get together, especially the high maint. ones it's like a cult. And if you arent one of them you are no good. I have heard sooo many girls brainwash some of my friend's gf's to the point they break up over shit that isnt true or something that didn't happen. It's weird. Anyway I felt like shit but i got over it, just roll a FAT blunt and smoke it up man, then enjoy being single.

Btw long distance works for some, I now live with my LD girlfriend, we were apart for about 1.5 yrs and the net was all we had. we're going 4 yrs strong... it depends on the ppl. Good luck man :jointsmile:

[yoda]

were you two ever actually dating? sounds like a fling you never got over. the way she's treated you though, just get over it.

and careful, cause you're like borderline stalking her.

[potsmokingnome]

Yeah its over, I'd back off....The problem with long distance relationships its harder to mantain proper comunication. I say just lay off, for awhile, stop callin and textin soo much. I'm one to take though lol but yeah if she wants to talk to you she will. Just let it be...

[Metaphor]

aight, yea its done. i guess i knew that the whole time though.

and yoda i was dating her, for like 2 yrs. it wasnt just some 'fling' i neva got over.

[Gundari]

Metaphor, my last relationship was 3 years long distance 2 years living together. I strongly advise you not to pursue it any further as the thing I've learned about long distance relationships is that they work because of the distance. Soon as you take the distance out of the equation and everything goes to hell.

I draw this conclusion based upon my own experience and the experience of several others.