"good partners"... heh heh!

Well, the most wonderful man I've ever had the pleasure of dating, I met right here on canncom. The Yeag was a fellow grower and we got talking because of our shared interest in growing pot, ended up doing a seed exchange, had to communicate a bit more because of some grow questions, and after a couple months of that I found out he was going through a divorce (we hadn't discussed SOs at all prior to that) and couple months later he flew up here for a week and it was just wonderful to find out that the spark translated just as well in person. I know it's not often that you get lucky like that. He had to move back home to Alaska though because his ex-wife moved home and took their son with her, so that was, sadly, the end of that. It was really neat to get to know someone through their words first, and even neater to find out that that person was no more and no less than he'd claimed to be. Just a good, kind, man who I miss very much.

The other really good relationship I've had was also recent- after Yeag and I parted ways- my tenant's best friend, Donk, who I'd met but not really noticed because of his grizzly adams beard, lol. I thought that dude with the beard and the jetta was really a cool guy, but never thought of him as cute. Apparently my tenants, observing our interaction and knowing both of us, decided to make it their mission to set us up. I heard through the grapevine that the decision was based on our equal levels of dorkiness, the way we talked about shit went over everyone elses' heads, and no one got our jokes except each other... hahahaha... They never had the chance; after a day on the river when we had more time to talk, we exchanged numbers and made plans to go fishing some morning that week before work, and that went so well that I made dinner for him a few days later and there you have it. Again, circumstances out of both of our control meant that the relationship was short-lived; he's got a baby on the way with his ex girlfriend and needs to get his own life in order in preparation for imminent fatherhood. We're still close; he's one of the smartest, funniest, most loyal men I have ever met and took care of my sorry ass through my last arrest and I know that I'd help him in any possible way when he needs it. He's coming over for dinner tonight actually; I'm making braised duck. It's funny how little tension there is. We're friends first and foremost, and the sex thing is over, and it doesn't matter that much.

But what these dudes have in common is that we met through a community that we were both a part of (canncom, and my tenants' friends), got talking more because of shared interests (gardening, and fishing) before we even had any physical attraction, and ended up hitting it off wonderfully. And neither time I was even looking. If I had been, no doubt it would have gone badly- the added pressure would certainly have ruined any chance that we had had to REALLY get to know the person.

By 'good' relationships I mean ones that I feel that no matter what happens, we'll always be close, even if we don't talk for months. So the ones that didn't work out as romances beg inclusion into this list. I've got another couple guy friends like that, Woz and Jay, who I met on group rides at different times. Woz is just a funny permanent bachelor with a bike too big for him and a sick sense of humor- we were ever so briefly involved but he'd drive me BATTY to date, so it's back to buddies. We go skiing in winter and bomb around town on our bikes in summer when he's not deployed to some obscure air base on the other end of the world. Jay, kind of similar; not dateable but after we went on this NASTY ride and I was able to keep up with his RC51 (he's literally the ONLY person I've ever met who has the strength and skills to handle a 1000cc race bike properly) on my Ninja 250, dragging footpegs in the process, we got back to my house, took off his helpmet, and was like, "Damn girl, wanna marry me?" hahaha no thanks, but let's do this again real soon big guy! My girls know him as Tantric Jay now... heh heh heh...

Anyway. Mutual interest is the way to go IMHO. There is little in the world I despise so much as trying to make small talk. I want a man with whom I can sit up yapping all night and then go DO something the next day.

One of these days I'm sure things will fall into place- I'd love to meet a man with all those qualities who DOESN'T have some dealbreaker issue- it will happen eventually with any luck. I just keep a full tank of gas in the bike, there's a fresh tippet on my fly rod, and my skis are sharp and ready to roll.