Quote Originally Posted by VoidLivesOn
Dude you are way to smart to not have a g/f or have good socializing skills. I mean out of all the people on these boards I ALWAYS make sure I read your posts. They're ALWAYS informative, smart, and above all true. I mean if I were as smart as you I would use it on society. Everyone likes to talk to smart people.

Thanks man, but I'm not necessarily as smart as you think. Intelligence takes many forms. In my case my writing and articulation intelligence is very high, but my social intelligence is downright retarded. Like I said, I'm sort of 1/3 autistic in my thinking.

Coelho, I "deepest and honest reasons for wanting to be social", are simply that I'm sick and tired of being alone. Everybody has a deep, ingrained need to have companionship at some point, and I'm 22 and still have yet to be kissed. Having never experienced intimacy, I can't help but feel like I'm missing something major in my life.
About 6 months ago I started to notice this feeling growing inside of me, like a blackhole that drains me, and it can only be cured by finally experiencing intimacy. Even outside of that, it would be nice to have a social network or at least a couple friends. Being completely alone has just really started to bother me. Though thankfully, only lately, I've worked hard to attaining an emotionally healthy state of mind and have finally achieved it.

I know the true reason your social skills suck:

Your afraid of looking bad
Nope, sorry. I know that's the common one, I've researched social anxiety disorder thoroughly and that's the number 1 thing with most if not all shy people. But in my case I don't give a shit how I look, I'm just hindered by an analytical pseudo-autistic way of thinking. Albeit I've learned a great deal over the years, I can talk to people rather well initially, and charm them to boot, but I don't understand how to take it into a friendship or intimacy.

I meet new smart people at college- if you don't take college classes now, try taking easy ones just to get to know people if you're able to afford it. Find out stuff you're interested in, and try to sit next to someone interesting-looking, I suppose?

lol, that's just what my Mother has been telling me PurpleBanana. But I've been going to college for 2 years and have yet to meet somebody.