Quote Originally Posted by stinkyattic
Oh right right. That's the sticky point... finding smarties who you don't have to join a club or do big social stuff to meet. Hm... This will take some thought... Like, how large a group of people does it take for you to get jumpy? Could you do a small book club? Maybe an activity like a river cleanup day where you don't have to hang out in the group the whole time? What's an activity that you like enough to feel confident in a larger group of people than you'd normally like being around? Do you get down with that whole games/role playing thing so you wouldn't have to be 'you', you could be someone else for the day? I'm just throwing out ideas here. I keep forgetting where you're at, but in the Northeast, the Appalachian Mountain Club hosts all sorts of nerdy-outdoorsy activities like birdwatching hikes and that sort of thing, super chill crowd, often a little on the stuffy side, but in a good way, no pressure to contribute unless you're comfortable. Stuff like that. Meanwhile, this place IS good practice. I'm a lot more socially confident since joining the site, that's for damn sure. Bartending helped a lot too, just forcing myself to interact with a lot of different people, including total assholes. That's the hardest part, and once you master talking to a total asswad who you'd rather just jump across the bar and throttle, you can pretty much talk to anyone...

lol, yes I know I make things complicated. To put it in perspective, I'm all good in my business communications class of about 18 people that's spread out. I had to quit my Mangement Principles class because it was packed with 40 people on long rows of tables, completely surrounded. Way too stressful. Clubs/bars that are packed to the nuts, make me reeeaaly stressed out too. Weired eh? I really don't see why that particular situation, a really crowded room, is the one thing that stresses me out so much:wtf:


I think you have some pretty good ideas there, but I can't do anything outdoorsy for hours because of the nerve damage in my spine. Really I couldn't manage more than half an hour on my feet.

hmmmm, I suppose this whole question is more of a pain-in-the-ass than I considered. I suppose it's more for those who have come across a circumstance where they met intelligent people.
Gandalf_The_Grey Reviewed by Gandalf_The_Grey on . People Listening/Searching for intellectual peers Inspired by the people watching thread of course:jointsmile:. Anybody ever tried people listening? I've tried people-listening so I can learn how to socialize, analyzing conversations to see how average people make small talk/chit chat (as is I'm totally socially isolated outside these boards). Honestly, average people talk about nothing. I was listening to this guy and girl talking on the bus and it was 25 minutes of: "I got that chain fixed on my bike" "yeah, not having a bike Rating: 5