a question of reaction.....

[snowblind]

i have cheated and been cheated on in the past.

i operate a zero tolerance in both zones now.

if you want to cheat and its a reacuring thing then it means, to me at least, i need to get out of the relationship.

if someone else does it, then wether they admit it or not they are probably having the same feelings. so i do them a favor.

tough but fair

[birdgirl73]

Does "messing around" mean I walk in and catch my spouse having sex with another person? Or does it mean just necking-petting messing around?

I'd be apt to say "sayonara," but I'm not sure anyone can really say that for sure unless faced with that actual event. It would definitely be hard to re-establish trust after something like that. It'd also be very hard to throw the towel in on a long relationship, too. I really don't have a clue what I'd do. I'm glad I'm not faced with this situation!

[Reefer Rogue]

I would never cheat on a girlfriend because it would hurt me a lot if they did it to me. I may be able to forgive them for it eventually but i would end the relationship immediately. If you're gonna cheat, break up with the person.

[potsmokingnome]

I cheated on my ex wife (gf of 2 months at the time) I didn't actually have sex with the girl, but we kissed on numerous ocassions when i was visiting a friend in Ontario. I confessed to her that i kissed another girl. I honestly thought that would be the end of the relationship, but it wasn't She gave me a second chance. Looking back it would have beeen easier of we just broke up at that point, cause I don't think she fully trusted me again after that moment. One of the reason why our marriage failed was that lack of trust between us. She said she forgave me for it, but she never forgot about it..So if I caught "the one" messin around I'd be torn in giving them a second chance, and saying to them to "get the F@ck out" Cause I wouldn't want to not to be able to fully trust that person again in the relationship. I'd proably go for option 2!

[jeepboi]

fuck it and run.

[crudemood]

I cheated on my ex wife (gf of 2 months at the time) I didn't actually have sex with the girl, but we kissed on numerous ocassions when i was visiting a friend in Ontario. I confessed to her that i kissed another girl. I honestly thought that would be the end of the relationship, but it wasn't She gave me a second chance. Looking back it would have beeen easier of we just broke up at that point, cause I don't think she fully trusted me again after that moment. One of the reason why our marriage failed was that lack of trust between us. She said she forgave me for it, but she never forgot about it..So if I caught "the one" messing around I'd be torn in giving them a second chance, and saying to them to "get the F@ck out" Cause I wouldn't want to not to be able to fully trust that person again in the relationship. I'd probably go for option 2!

YES. I could forgive them yes but I would never be able to trust them again no matter how hard they tried to win me back. Just deep down, they really shouldn't have done that in the first place, if they're tempted once they'll be tempted again and I just couldn't deal with that..
My rule is if something goes sour in a relationship, I run without a warning and you won't hear from me.
I agree with birdgirl, it would be definitely harder to find someone else to reach such intimate level of trust again.