I agree you have to be confident! I'm the same way really I'm just starting to get confident in myself. Its not easy but what helps me is that. I Tell myself the only thing that matters is right now, not what happened 2 seconds ago, 2 minutes, 2 hours, or even 2 days ago, and so on...Ya got to live life for yourself before you can even think of living it with someone else How can you learn to love someone else if ya don't even love yourself? I'm not sayin you don't love yourself. but Black barbie focus on yourself and your low self esteem, I just think if you have more faith, and confidence in yourself you will have a better chance of meeting a good guy, not just some loser trash. Guys are atracted to confidence, at least the good ones are