why am i single??

[beachguy in thongs]

get out of your comfort zone and take some emotional risks.

you have to go out on a limb a bit and be a bit more social.

I'd think that, you going out on a limb may cause you to do something in the wrong direction to obtain the guy you're trying to court.

You want them to stick around for the person you are, and, not expect you to live life on the limb. But, maybe they will like the other side of you, too.

I'm a ball of confusion, so any emotional advice from me should be thrown away.

[babystarbud]

advice from me should be thrown away.

correct.

Im not talking about acting out of character, or making a spectacle of yourself, just making a bit more social effort than your used to.

and the important thing to realise, is that you cant possibly go in the wrong direction, your only asking simple questions to build social confidence.

Picture it from a different angle, your sat in a cafe, having a sandwich, and a strange (but very ugly) girl comes over and says "hey that looks nice, I want a sandwich, should I get one of those?"

what would you do?, you would, say:
"yeh, they are ok, get one, but i recomend the one with extra pickle(or whatever)"

end of conversation, unless its natural to continue it..

repeat asking strangers stuff wherever you go....


what Im sugesting is to practice lots of small coversations like this, and you will be suprised how much more confident you will become.

[beachguy in thongs]

I never meant to not talk to anyone. Just don't ask them how the pickles are, if you don't like pickles.

[Mississippi Steve]

Confidence is the word of the day.... be confident in yourself, be straight up, be direct and to the point. Guys don't want to mess around and waste time playing games.
Its not about looks either.... a big girl can be sexy as hell, a real thin girl can be a complete turn-off even if she was a centerfold. I don't figure to be the Ken doll(tho I do have all the accessories), nor am I Shrek...... I am just me.
You just need to be you, and add a little confidence. You gotta be happy with yourself and your situation. Get past being *ALONE* and become *AL-ONE*. 2 halves don't make a whole.... 2 that are "all-one" make a couple. :-)

[HerbalConfusion]

Theres a guy for every girl but not a girl for every guy.

[cannabis campbell]

bullshit ^

[Reefer Rogue]

Don't be so shy, put yourself out there more. Do not fear rejection, it's their loss, isn't it?

[beachguy in thongs]

Theres a guy for every girl but not a girl for every guy.

bullshit ^

Interestingly enough, HerbalConfusion is right, except for 65 and older age-group.

Sex ratio:

at birth: 1.07 male(s)/female
under 15 years: 1.064 male(s)/female
15-64 years: 1.024 male(s)/female
65 years and over: 0.781 male(s)/female
total population: 1.014 male(s)/female (2007 est.)

https://www.cia.gov/library/publicat...xx.html#People

[Spoken Word]

first off i am not a bad looking girl. i know i'm not a dime but i'm far from ugly and i look better than a lot of girls. i've seen some ugly ass girls with bfs so i dont think looks are a problem right?

i dress okay, i could probably work on that.

i'm shy but i open up once i feel more comfortable.

i'm really smart. i make great grades in school and i'm witty

i'm not flirty. it turns out that all these "subtle signals" i've been trying to give guys for years are only interpreted as being nice! so maybe that's it.

so do u think there is anything that could be preventing me from having a man? if i forgot anything please lemme know and be completely honest. idk what i'm doing wrong here!

believe me girl, there's no use thinking like that. if I had a quarter for everytime i've seen a decent looking girl with an asshole, i'd be a rich man.

it's better just to try an make yourself the best person you can be. so you have something to offer that man, when he does come around. when is that?? no one knows but waiting for it is only making you more anxious.

dress in ways that bring out your confidance(sp?)
act and interact in ways that you feel comfortable.

and don't worry about your looks...
when that guy comes around, he'll notice all these things...

there's no point in rushing "love" or the sappy thought of it. that only leads to more "negative" relationships.

[potsmokingnome]

I agree you have to be confident! I'm the same way really I'm just starting to get confident in myself. Its not easy but what helps me is that. I Tell myself the only thing that matters is right now, not what happened 2 seconds ago, 2 minutes, 2 hours, or even 2 days ago, and so on...Ya got to live life for yourself before you can even think of living it with someone else How can you learn to love someone else if ya don't even love yourself? I'm not sayin you don't love yourself. but Black barbie focus on yourself and your low self esteem, I just think if you have more faith, and confidence in yourself you will have a better chance of meeting a good guy, not just some loser trash. Guys are atracted to confidence, at least the good ones are