I definitely want her to cum first and often before I cum. They are like orgasm thieves stealing many orgasms before I have my first. That is fine by me because I love to feel her pussy get tight and clamp down before she has the waves of muscle contractions and orgasmic waves on my dick. I love to pump through that while she is getting all wet on me. Then after 2 or 3 orgasms I can give most girls multiple orgasms and leave them quivering from head to toe by the time I'm ready. By then they're orgasms are getting stronger and stronger and the waves on my dick are better and better. I love to hear a girl yelling and moaning and screaming she's cuming while I'm just getting started. Makes me work even harder!