Quote Originally Posted by babystarbud
Simmilar story here, I'm not a steriotypical pot head and dont actually get stoned that often, but it has caused problems sometimes.

But she has always known I smoke, and I think its important not to hide it. I mean I dont normaly smoke in front of her at home, Ill go upstairs on the computer and have a smoke, and if we are round a friends house ill smoke a little bit if theres weed going around.

we have had minor arguments about it, but I just say look... its part of who I am, its not fair for you to put me down just beacuse you have an irrational problem with it, and its not as if its causing a problem in our relationship or in the way I go about my life...and if it did, then i would take steps....i dont smoke on a daily basis anyway, smetime not for weeks.

If it ever come down to it, she knows I would let her leave rather than be dictated to. I would never stop her from doing stuff that she wanted to do, and I expect the same respect, even if she dosent understand it.

The interesting thing, is that it goes beyond the "drug" issue, its about maintaining integrity, I have actually said, on a few occasions, that I will always smoke and thats the way it is. deal with it or go away.

(well I maybe said it a bit more diplomatic than that, but she gets the picture)


So my advice would be to stand up for yourself man, hiding what you do is only gonna come back to bite you in the ass...
but if you are smoking to the point where its affecting your ability to function properly (like your spending to much money on it)then thats a problem you need to deal with, like stop for a few months, get your shit together and dont make the same mistake again, take it easy in future
very good advice, thanks man


Quote Originally Posted by TheSmokingMonkey
Okay I just have to add: if weed turns you into a big fat idiot, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

I am a little sick of people admitting that weed makes them turn into emotional retards around their significant others and I think that this probably indicates a need for introspection and personal growth, rather than a battle over a controversial herb.

It's only polite to ask permission from others before smoking. If they say they would prefer if you didn't, then respect it.

If you need to block two hours of alone time off to hang out with Mary Jane, then do so, but don't burden others with your inexcusable behavior if they don't want to be affected by it.

Sorry. I will step off my soapbox now. But some things in life need to take precedence over smoking.
i agree it doesnt make me like that, the only reason i acted weird around here when i was smoking is because she hated it and it made me uncomfortable. I wish we could come to an agreement, i'm still trying to figure out what to do.