Girlfriend hates pot :(

[matthiasj]

I was faced with the same problem three and half years ago, and I just came out and told her "Hey I smoke weed and I know you don't approve of it but if you really like me you wont give me any hell cuz this is who I am and this is what I like to do." She cried for about a day and got over it and now we are happily married and she is just as big of a pot head as I am. Now my wife would like to tell her side of the story so I am handing the keyboard over for a few minutes.
First off, he was drunk and high, and we were instant messaging each other on yahoo. I asked him what he had been doing all day and his reply was, " drinking and smoking." I totally flipped out on his ass and he told me that if I didn't like it then to break up with him. Needless to say I didn't and instead I tried it myself and have been smoking with him every since.

that would be so awesome

[meatw4d]

I'm in a similar spot man. My girl and I are kinda on a don't ask/don't tell basis when it comes to pot. As long as I don't do it around her, everything is fine. If I had to, I'd give it up though. She means the world to me.

[smartin.2006]

Yeah it is pretty awesome, the downside is that I have to buy twice as much weed now.

[O. G. ganja smoker]

smartin 2006 ur wifes a G but grow ur own then u can get high as much as u want for CHEAP

[robbyg]

Let me tell you a predicament I put my significant in, for 3 years I was anti-pothead but occasionally(once or twice a year) would enjoy a social joint with old friends of mine from highschool, recently I am very pro-pot and I think I have scared her quite a bit. I do not fit the profile of a pothead but the legal issue of it concerns her and due to her large amount of love for me she is worried for me

what can you say to that


not much, but every day I make progress and eventually I will break her in. She surprised me by saying when we have our own house I can have a boys den out back and do what I please, that seems fair

compromise compromise compromise! If she loves you enough, she will come around. Good luck.


puff puff pass keep that torch burnin!

robby

[babystarbud]

Simmilar story here, I'm not a steriotypical pot head and dont actually get stoned that often, but it has caused problems sometimes.

But she has always known I smoke, and I think its important not to hide it. I mean I dont normaly smoke in front of her at home, Ill go upstairs on the computer and have a smoke, and if we are round a friends house ill smoke a little bit if theres weed going around.

we have had minor arguments about it, but I just say look... its part of who I am, its not fair for you to put me down just beacuse you have an irrational problem with it, and its not as if its causing a problem in our relationship or in the way I go about my life...and if it did, then i would take steps....i dont smoke on a daily basis anyway, smetime not for weeks.

If it ever come down to it, she knows I would let her leave rather than be dictated to. I would never stop her from doing stuff that she wanted to do, and I expect the same respect, even if she dosent understand it.

The interesting thing, is that it goes beyond the "drug" issue, its about maintaining integrity, I have actually said, on a few occasions, that I will always smoke and thats the way it is. deal with it or go away.

(well I maybe said it a bit more diplomatic than that, but she gets the picture)


So my advice would be to stand up for yourself man, hiding what you do is only gonna come back to bite you in the ass...
but if you are smoking to the point where its affecting your ability to function properly (like your spending to much money on it)then thats a problem you need to deal with, like stop for a few months, get your shit together and dont make the same mistake again, take it easy in future

[Everyday Struggle]

Make it last as long as possible because it aint gonna last forever. Don't change yourself for ANYONE but YOU. Don't be pussy whipped. If you wanna smoke cannabis, then do it.

I definitely agree with this one.
Don't try to control one another.
That person is supposed to be your partner,
not your parent.

[TheSmokingMonkey]

Okay I just have to add: if weed turns you into a big fat idiot, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

I am a little sick of people admitting that weed makes them turn into emotional retards around their significant others and I think that this probably indicates a need for introspection and personal growth, rather than a battle over a controversial herb.

It's only polite to ask permission from others before smoking. If they say they would prefer if you didn't, then respect it.

If you need to block two hours of alone time off to hang out with Mary Jane, then do so, but don't burden others with your inexcusable behavior if they don't want to be affected by it.

Sorry. I will step off my soapbox now. But some things in life need to take precedence over smoking.

[matthiasj]

Simmilar story here, I'm not a steriotypical pot head and dont actually get stoned that often, but it has caused problems sometimes.

But she has always known I smoke, and I think its important not to hide it. I mean I dont normaly smoke in front of her at home, Ill go upstairs on the computer and have a smoke, and if we are round a friends house ill smoke a little bit if theres weed going around.

we have had minor arguments about it, but I just say look... its part of who I am, its not fair for you to put me down just beacuse you have an irrational problem with it, and its not as if its causing a problem in our relationship or in the way I go about my life...and if it did, then i would take steps....i dont smoke on a daily basis anyway, smetime not for weeks.

If it ever come down to it, she knows I would let her leave rather than be dictated to. I would never stop her from doing stuff that she wanted to do, and I expect the same respect, even if she dosent understand it.

The interesting thing, is that it goes beyond the "drug" issue, its about maintaining integrity, I have actually said, on a few occasions, that I will always smoke and thats the way it is. deal with it or go away.

(well I maybe said it a bit more diplomatic than that, but she gets the picture)


So my advice would be to stand up for yourself man, hiding what you do is only gonna come back to bite you in the ass...
but if you are smoking to the point where its affecting your ability to function properly (like your spending to much money on it)then thats a problem you need to deal with, like stop for a few months, get your shit together and dont make the same mistake again, take it easy in future

very good advice, thanks man

Okay I just have to add: if weed turns you into a big fat idiot, then maybe it's time to re-evaluate.

I am a little sick of people admitting that weed makes them turn into emotional retards around their significant others and I think that this probably indicates a need for introspection and personal growth, rather than a battle over a controversial herb.

It's only polite to ask permission from others before smoking. If they say they would prefer if you didn't, then respect it.

If you need to block two hours of alone time off to hang out with Mary Jane, then do so, but don't burden others with your inexcusable behavior if they don't want to be affected by it.

Sorry. I will step off my soapbox now. But some things in life need to take precedence over smoking.

i agree it doesnt make me like that, the only reason i acted weird around here when i was smoking is because she hated it and it made me uncomfortable. I wish we could come to an agreement, i'm still trying to figure out what to do.

[macro]

get a girl who smokes.
you'll get over this one, i know you really really like her, but you will really really love your new stoner girlfriend.