My new beau has a kink that freaks me out a little...

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

I just started dating a fella, and while we haven't had sex as of yet we have discussed sexuality. We were very open and honest with one another which I like, but I'm a little worried about one of his kinks. He told me he is really into having his partner strap on a dildo and well... you get the picture. :wtf:

I've never done this before and I have a few concerns. First and foremost, does he have latent homosexual tendencies or is this normal for some straight men? Have any of you ladies done this with a partner? Would you be comfortable if your current partner came to you with this sort of sexual request? I'd really like to hear everyone's opinions because at this point I'm kind of uncomfortable and mildly freaked out at the prospect.

I haven't dated in a few years now, and I really like this guy, so I don't want to ruin our chances together by flipping out over this issue. Any advice would really be helpful. Thanks in advance.

GreenLadyOfDankDowns Reviewed by GreenLadyOfDankDowns on 11-04-2007. My new beau has a kink that freaks me out a little... I just started dating a fella, and while we haven't had sex as of yet we have discussed sexuality. We were very open and honest with one another which I like, but I'm a little worried about one of his kinks. He told me he is really into having his partner strap on a dildo and well... you get the picture. :wtf: I've never done this before and I have a few concerns. First and foremost, does he have latent homosexual tendencies or is this normal for some straight men? Have any of you ladies Rating: 5

[stinkyattic]

This has never happened to me, and I hope it doesn't. While I would definitely be a little turned off -simply a personal preference not to make use of excessive um sexual apparatus, ya know? you, me, and a couple pounds or leather and silicone... oooh baby! haha! does this thing come with an instruction manual? Qucik! Call tech support!- I'm not sure that I'd go so far as to fret over whether my man is wavering in his straightness.
He IS with you, and you ARE a woman... I guess the simplest way would be to ask him how he started thinking about the desire to be bonked in the butt by a chick with a dick.

HEy, maybe he's just an ass man.

Maybe you can find a middle ground that doesn't require fumbling with buckles and straps...

[slipknotpsycho]

I just started dating a fella, and while we haven't had sex as of yet we have discussed sexuality. We were very open and honest with one another which I like, but I'm a little worried about one of his kinks. He told me he is really into having his partner strap on a dildo and well... you get the picture. :wtf:

I've never done this before and I have a few concerns. First and foremost, does he have latent homosexual tendencies or is this normal for some straight men? Have any of you ladies done this with a partner? Would you be comfortable if your current partner came to you with this sort of sexual request? I'd really like to hear everyone's opinions because at this point I'm kind of uncomfortable and mildly freaked out at the prospect.

I haven't dated in a few years now, and I really like this guy, so I don't want to ruin our chances together by flipping out over this issue. Any advice would really be helpful. Thanks in advance.

just going out on a limb here.... but does he like being dominated too?

[FakeBoobsRule]

I saw a very similar if not exact question asked in a magazine before. I believe the answer came from someone with a PhD in the field and the answer was no not necessarily but if he thought about being with a guy while the act was done then it was a sign of homosexuality. Wow, I didn't word that well at all but you get the idea. So ask him what he thinks about when that is going on.

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

Well, we've talked and now I'm even more unsure of this guy. Yes he likes being dominated, which wouldn't bother me if it was the regular run of the mill "Tie me up and spank me!" kind of domination. His idea is for him to get dressed up like a female prostitute, and have me treat him like I'm his pimp. He wants me to be supremely rough with him (like punching him in the face with my fists and beating him with a cane), and basically anally rape him, all while calling him Stephanie. :wtf: I told him I would really have to sit down and think about all of this. I really like Steve, he's a nice guy and outside of the bedroom we have a lot in common, but I'm thinking I'm way too vanilla in my sexual proclivities to please him in the long run. He said he hopes I can accept his desires because he likes me a lot and is tired of being rejected by small minded women because of this issue. I wouldn't consider myself small minded, and don't want him to think of me in that way, but honestly I just can't see myself ever being comfortable with what turns him on the most. He's leaving early in the morning for a business trip out of state and will be gone until Wednesday, so I have three days to work up the nerve to tell him I just can't get into his fetish play. This really sucks, just once I'd like to meet a guy and not have it fizzle out because of weird bullshit.

[20dollarholla]

I dont think he has a problem with small minded women, he's has a problem being a fucking freak. "Rape my ass and call me Stephanie" HAHAHAHA FIND A NEW MAN!!!!!!!! First it will start out like this then this freak will be chasing your dog or cat or whatever pet you have around the house trying to rape it. Sticking his dick in VCR's and shit.

Even though I'm not a phsycologist I'd say he was molested as a child.

[couch-potato]

No need to call the guy a freak... so he's got a few fetishes. Either you want to be with him or not.

[psychocat]

Are you sure this isn't a wind up ?

Mind you I know some pretty freaky folk so it could be for real.
I know a girl who would love to be in your shoes as far as the strap on goes , but I doubt she would be very comfortable with the violence side of things.
I have one rule when it comes to pleasure :
If you don't enjoy it then you probably shouldn't do it at all, that goes for all parties involved.

PS I am glad my arse has only ever seen one way traffic.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

I dont think he has a problem with small minded women, he's has a problem being a fucking freak. "Rape my ass and call me Stephanie" HAHAHAHA FIND A NEW MAN!!!!!!!! First it will start out like this then this freak will be chasing your dog or cat or whatever pet you have around the house trying to rape it. Sticking his dick in VCR's and shit.

Even though I'm not a phsycologist I'd say he was molested as a child.

/\ /\ Well you have that part right:wtf:

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

No I don't think he was just winding me up, he seemed really sincere. I'm just going to tell him I'm not into that sort of thing and don't think it'll work out between us. I totally respect his right to enjoy whatever he wants sexually with a consenting partner, and don't necessarily think he's a "freak". He's just too freaky for me. I hope he finds what he's looking for eventually.