I like to think that when you die, even in the most tragic way, that it is peacful for you. You get a chance to reflect on your life, your family and friends morn over you passing, but they shouldn't! You become something else, not really sure what that is ( because I haven't died yet) but you take up a place in the universe where you are most needed. From there not sure what happens, can only imagine. Maybe you come back maybe you become a guardian, maybe you get too just relax and enjoy non-life. Really don't know, but have thought about it many times. Don't think you get a choice really though. You go to where you are most needed.