am i overreacting?

[GreenLadyOfDankDowns]

It sounds like you guys need to work out trust and honesty issues in your relationship. I think you two need to sit down and have a serious talk about how you feel about this. Ask her why she was dancing in that way with this guy when she promised she wouldn't dance with anyone, and why she lied about it. Every relationship has its problems, and if you don't work this out now, things may just go downhill from here.

[snicklefritz1825]

I luv dancing alot and grinding for a girl who does grind is having fun. I dance with all my guy friends and they dance with my firends that are girls. It is not always sexual, your gf just wanted to have fun. But telling a lie is not accepted.

[hreskofreight4]

maybe the guy in the picture is a gay salsa dancer. if not i think you should eat her.

[MadSativa]

that shit wouldnt fly with me, but then Im fukin gangsta like fuk and I look for the girls who act and look like the queen part. What queen you ever seen or heard of get on the table and shit(should be none), what queen have you seen or heard of startin shit and getting gangsta cause of the king(should be all). it goes both ways, and in a pinch you need some assurance, All Im sayin is that shit would not fly with me, same as if I were to do the opposite and she would be in my shoes I would expect that shit wouldnt fly with her. Like I said Gangsta like fuk, organization goes into the relationship too.

[Squiggle]

Alright dude...

Well this is my opinion on the matter.

You were pissed that she was even going... You planned on blowing up... I would have too...

Well anyways you arent over reacting... she promised... she broke that promise she deserved a bitchin...

But after a while you 2 should both get over and fuck...

Well anyways As someone said earlier with "girls" if you are out of sight you are out of mind...

If your with a "woman" then your always on atleast one part of their their mind and you cant do what im about to tell you to do.

Since your with a "girl" your out of sight out of mind...

Next time she is going to ANY type of party just simply reply
"Ok honey im going to "insert name here"'s party and talk to you later"

She will probably flip out and because you KNOW what shes going to do at that party anyway just lat her worry and fret and nothing will happen between her and another guy at that party she will be to busy worrying if you are out fucking some other girl...

Thats my two cents.

[smartin.2006]

It's natural to feel that way, almost everyone does it. You can't be too controlling over a free women, but then again she shouldn't lie to you. I would have to say that you did overreact but what she did was fucked up, cuz if she really cared about you she wouldn't of done something that you didn't want her to do. My advice is to get out of that relationship fast because it's not going anywhere good.

[Canadian_Cron]

iunno, i think its sketchy that she told you she didnt dance with ne1 when she did.

but at the same time i have a friend that has a boyfriend and weve hung out and danced before (both knowing it was only dancing) and weve hugged quite a few times aswell... but i think most people would probally think thats a little wierd... some girls are just a little more flirty than most but it doesnt necessairly mean they cheat, or that they mean it in that way.

if i were you i would be pissed even if it was only for the fact that she lied to you, when you trusted her.

also just beacuse theres pictures of her dancing n stuff with him doesnt mean that anything happened, if you know the guy in the photo or know that he is just a friend of hers from before then id say nothing happened... and id probally be ok with it.

but if your uncomfortable with her doing that i dont think she should have. its not like your telling her she cant have male friends or cant dance without you.... just no grinding??? thats reasonable.

seriously dude id let her know your pissed, you should be... she lied to you and did something that she knew made you uncomfortable. and i would be a little sketched out if she has gotten interested in other guys in the past while she was dating someone else. from what you say i dont think anything happened tho.

[Comatose]

I don't know if I would do that, Squiggle. I'd be more inclined to think that she would go off and fuck someone else because she thinks that her bf is back at home doing the same.

Like a majority of the above said, the fact that she loves to dance is perfectly normal. Most women do. Most women even love grinding. But she should be grinding on you and only you, IMO.

I think the fact that she told you that nothing had happened at the party when clearly something did is the bigger problem. Above anything else, you have to be able to trust your partner 100%. Until you have a calm conversation, there isn't 100% trust between the two of you.

[c of green]

lies should only be told to the "man".She may have lied to spare your feelings cuz she loves you and knows you're a little jealous but how i see things is if your gonna lie about it then it couldn't have been innocent.Maybe i'm biased though cuz i fukn hate to be lied to about anything.I prefer brutal honesty