am i overreacting?

[VoidLivesOn]

so i have my girlfriend, been dating for like a year and 2 months. she moved to NY for a bit before she moves back with me as soon as possible. Tonight she went to some fucking halloween party for her work, and off the back i was annoyed but i didn't wanna be all oppressive and tell her what she cant and can do. so i told her no dancing with guys please. she said i promise i won't. she goes, i go to the skatepark, i'm a little edgy all night and then on my way home she calls me. we have small talk she assures me no guys asked her to dance or anything and acts like the night was innocent. i believe her cause i have no reason to believe otherwise. then i get on her myspace after we get off the phone for a night and look at what of her new girl friends in new yorks myspace that she went to the party with. not trying to be nosy or even catch my g/f doing anything wrong, i want to see pictures of the halloween party when i realize she already put some up.

so the first 2 i see is of my g/f like posing with this guy for a picture. its sort of like friendly but her arms are like WRAPPED around him, in both pictures, and i think in one hes grabbing her ass! but the picture cuts off. maybe i was just being a jealous dick but i automatically get jealous, cause i know who this guy is and he's grinning like some oversexed wannabe mac daddy with a lump in his pants. then i see one of them dancing and her fucking ASS is in his fucking CROTCH. then at that instant she ironically calls to say i love you and i fucking lost it. and i have all the reason to because if it WERE ME in that picture we probably wouldn't be together right now, thats for damn fucking sure. and i've never done anything to this extent.

so i calm down, i tell her i'll get over it and try to look at it as her at some work party hanging out with friends. girlfriends have guy friends right? do you think it was harmless...but i mean her fucking ass was in his crotch, and i was thinking if she even THOGHT about me she would have atleast put an inch of serperation in there. but am i over reacting. and i don't think cheating is a big issue, because the way she was telling me how she can't wait to be with me i believed her and she is NOT the type of girl to cheat. however she is the type to start liking somone else and dump me. she did it with me when her ex moved away. thats a different story.

do you think i'm being jealous and over reacting or is what she did fucked up?

VoidLivesOn Reviewed by VoidLivesOn on 10-31-2007. am i overreacting? so i have my girlfriend, been dating for like a year and 2 months. she moved to NY for a bit before she moves back with me as soon as possible. Tonight she went to some fucking halloween party for her work, and off the back i was annoyed but i didn't wanna be all oppressive and tell her what she cant and can do. so i told her no dancing with guys please. she said i promise i won't. she goes, i go to the skatepark, i'm a little edgy all night and then on my way home she calls me. we have small Rating: 5

[kikoraa]

She did it to her ex she'll do it to you too.
Happened to me.
I don't know if your over reacting or not I would have acted the same way man.

[cutecalikitty]

Void, I'm going to apologize to you upfront .. only because what I have to say is probably not going to "sound" really positive to you in this venue ..

First off, man, talk about tense and hostile from the jump?! What is up with that? From your second sentence, "Tonight she went to some fucking halloween party for her work, " you told on yourself that you were uptight and not feeling this whole thing AT ALL. I dont think your g/f stood a chance of avoiding your blow-up. Sounds like you were itchin' to let it go. Not sure if there are other things in your relationship to predicate this (my guess, there probably are), but you should step back and read your post again. You may not realize whats there.

'Nuff said about that ...

She's YOUR girl, and sounds like she's right back at your side, where you both feel she belongs. Unless you have a valid reason to blow off your relationship with her, why do it?

Best of luck to you friend, I hope it all works out for you both :hippy:

Blaze on brotha .. blaze on :rastasmoke:

[beachguy in thongs]

Just imagine that she can grind your crotch hard. You already have pictures as proof. I hope you have an imagination. I know some people that don't.

Also, remember that for her to dance with a guy, like that, then she must have some deep-rooted desire for contact with male genitalia, and, that would turn me on.

[Stemis516]

if theres one thing ive learned its that there is a fine line between protecting your girl and being jealous....in my experience most girls want you to be protective but they want you to do it without getting jealous....weird i know, but women are crazy, we all know this

i used to be the jealous type, still am a little, and many a times it almost ruined my relationship.....its a lose lose situation, if u get too protective and come off jealous your girl is gonna accuse you of not trusting her, which of course u have to deny....with that said, i found it best to just roll with everything that happens and not flip out until you have some legit proof of something thats a bit more harmful than some dancing

[VoidLivesOn]

Void, I'm going to apologize to you upfront .. only because what I have to say is probably not going to "sound" really positive to you in this venue ..

First off, man, talk about tense and hostile from the jump?! What is up with that? From your second sentence, "Tonight she went to some fucking halloween party for her work, " you told on yourself that you were uptight and not feeling this whole thing AT ALL. I dont think your g/f stood a chance of avoiding your blow-up. Sounds like you were itchin' to let it go. Not sure if there are other things in your relationship to predicate this (my guess, there probably are), but you should step back and read your post again. You may not realize whats there.

'Nuff said about that ...

She's YOUR girl, and sounds like she's right back at your side, where you both feel she belongs. Unless you have a valid reason to blow off your relationship with her, why do it?

Best of luck to you friend, I hope it all works out for you both :hippy:

Blaze on brotha .. blaze on :rastasmoke:

that probably the best advice anyone could ever give. thanks, because what you just said is exactly how i feel, its probably not enought to break up with someone over. but i'm just pissed because she fucking lied to me. she made it sound like she didn't do shit with any guys all night then i see this picture with her fucking ass in some guys crotch. she lied. and about what you said i was waiting to let something go. our whole relationship my g/f acts like her shit don't stink. its always me fucking something up. then the first time she REALLY fucks up i'm like expected to let it go. because fucking believe me if she saw a picture with my crotch up some girls ass i swear we would not be together.

so how am i suppose to feel confident in my decision to just get over it when if it were me she would totally dump my ass. and i still am mad.

[GracefulToke]

Real love is when you accept everything about that person, and is a GINORMOUS commitment... so if you love her, then you will make it work no matter what.
When/If you go to talk to her about the dancing with other guys, just stay calm... don't just get flat out mad at her, and then have you guys in a rage... just tell her you want to have a calm conversation about some of your concerns. I hope everything works out for you!
I hope that made sense!:hippy:

[VoidLivesOn]

well i decided i'm just going to get over it and not bring it up anymore. its annoying because everytime i close my eyes i imagine this picture with my girlfriends ass in this morons crotch while hes all grinning up a storm. and whats also bothering me is that shes almost broken up with me so many times for IMO the DUMBEST shit like when she used to hate me smoking weed (she eventually got over that, but that still doens't make good of the fact we had all these dumb ass fights over it). and now i'm supposed to get over this picture with her ass in some guys crotch. i guess all this has some dumb comedic value to it that hopefully i can look back on and just nod my head....

[friendowl]

girls love attention..need attention
when you are out of sight you are out of mind
i suggest you go to a party with your boys and have some fun

[killerzland]

ok look, lieing is lieing, if she told u that she DID not dance with ANYONE, and u saw thoes pix, man u have all the right to be pissed, thats not overreacting at all

if u havent been in the realationship for long, might as well lay ur foot down, say the rules once more, adn hope that she doesnt break ur trust