I'm taking sides with the dude. Not completely, but you can't blame a dude who is clueless to what a girl is feeling.

I'll bet anyone here that if she said directly to him "hey I'm not interested in you," he wouldn't show up.

I give you the classic line on why guys would keep calling, coming over, etc.:

""Maybe. IM me tomorrow when I get out of work and we'll figure out what to do."

What hint did you give him other than, IM me tomorrow? How does that equate "I'm not interested in you?"

You girls think you being "nice" giving "hints" but really you are being very rude, for not saying how you are really feeling and wasting his time.

Frankly neither of you made it clear, instead you are dragging them both like dogs on a leash. We define this as "playing games."

You dug your own graves by playing games, whether you are aware of this or not.