what the hell is wrong with me

[LaZ]

It has happened to probably all of us. It's happened to me. It's called performance anxiety. It's cuased by just thinking too much or nervousness. Don't worry, you'll definatly get over it. It's normal, seeing it was only your first couple times.

[VoidLivesOn]

you can be watching to much porn or jerking off to much. and by the time your ready to smash your batter ain't up cause he's to tired.

one time my girlfriend gave me a blowjob like once a day for a few days straight till we finally had the right circumstances to straight up fuck. but by then my player couldn't stand up and she got all sentimental about it and took it personal. i was like damn...

[Hilder420]

yeah its performance anxiety... ive had a virgin and the same thing happened to him the first couple of times... what girl just lays there?!? yeah it i just told him to lay back, relax, concentrate on the feel of everything, got him nice and hard with my mouth and hands and enjoy the ride!!! (that was also the only time i let him come inside of me, cuz i figure the first time should be complete!lol im too nice..) he sure as Hell never had a problem after that!! good luck!!

[geonagual]

yeah its performance anxiety... ive had a virgin and the same thing happened to him the first couple of times... what girl just lays there?!? yeah it i just told him to lay back, relax, concentrate on the feel of everything, got him nice and hard with my mouth and hands and enjoy the ride!!! (that was also the only time i let him come inside of me, cuz i figure the first time should be complete!lol im too nice..) he sure as Hell never had a problem after that!! good luck!!

Yeah, you definitely broke his ass in right. and plenty of women will be thankful:jointsmile: for a long time.

[Hilder420]

its funny u mention that, cuz a few months ago, his new girlfriend was at a mutual friends house, and she didnt know i was his first.. well after a few drinks it came out, and she was like oh my god, that was you! thankyouthankyouthanyou!!!! lol... hehe i taught him everything he knows, and he was a very good student! lets just say shes a very happy girl!! I got mad skills!! lol

[Dave Byrd]

Make It Legal, I'm hoping your girlfriend will be as helpful as Hilder, but if she's not, just give yourself more time and less pressure. As you're getting into what's going on, concentrate on the physical feelings and the pleasure instead of the procedural aspects. It's focusing on the steps themselves that causes you to lose your concentration on the sensations. That'll take the wind out of anyone's sails. In other words, just close your eyes and go with the physical sensations. Let the animal instinct take over and not your conscious or self-conscious mind.

[make it legal]

Thanks for all your help, guys, I really appreciate it. I'm also really glad to know I'm not alone in this. I was really getting worried. Well she'll be here in about 20 minutes then I have to go to work but I'll tell you how it goes tonight.

[friendowl]

take a shot of hard liquor about 20-30 minutes before you plow

[4osiris]

**WARNING THIS MIGHT BE A BIT GRAPHIC**

This nay be a long read but I really need some help.


So I've been going out with this girl for about 2 and a half weeks. We had sex for the first time on Saturday night, and before then, I was a virgin. Whenever we're getting close with each other I always get a hard on. The first time I got a hand job from her, I didn't reach orgasm, I got close a few times, but didn't hit it. The second time, I had to try to help myself orgasm by fondling her breasts a lot, and it worked. Before we had sex for the first time the other night, I was getting pretty worked up (pun intended). When I put it in, my erection would only last for maybe 20-30 seconds. I would be completely gone, but it wasn't as hard. I just didn't understand, she has one of the most perfect bodies i have ever seen. Eventually, I lasted long enough to orgasm.
Today, though, I wasn't able to. We had a little time today, though. I just don't understand what's going on. I mean, I get really turned on during all the preemptive stuff all the time. She said it was probably thinking too much about it. I think that might be it. Maybe I thought I wasn't living up to her expectations, because I know she has had experience. She also doesn't move at all and expects me to do all the work. I just want to see what you guys think...

Thank's for any help.

During the Act, and after foreplay try to take your mind elsewhere like the Bahamas! And when you(mentally)return she'll love you like Wrigleys gum! And as for the guys doing all the work, sometimes it's the woman's way of seeing(feeling)what ya got. You'll be okay with practice. Just remember, mind over meat!

[el_fantistico]

Yeah... just relax dude, it's happened to the best of us.

I'm married to a goddess... the first time we had sex: nothing! Couldn't pop!! I was thinking too much, wanted it to be "great" and all that...

Now... some seven years in 90% of the time there are zero issues, then there are times when I go off in under a minute and still there are times where we go for hours, she gets "hers" and even after position after position I finaly throw in the towel. It's just the way it is...

The human body is weird, the mind is even weirder. Some of you younger cats will understand when you hit your thirties...

El Fantistico :smokin: