My profession is my curse...

[sublbc]

Well I just wanted to share a little bit of my life with you all and to get some input.

I recently lost a girl that I thought that I loved because I was forced to choose between her and my profession. She does smoke but is not down with the fact that I am a grower and do it full time for a living.

We tried to make things work but it becme clear that what I do is not acceptable to her and she basically forced me to chose between her and my job.

Since there was little choice for me I had to choose my job. For now I really have no choice and even though I do not plan for doing this forever, I do plan on doing it for at least a year or until I get my shit together.

So I guess for now I need to find a girl that is down for a guy who is a pro grower. I am starting to see that what I do really isolates me from a lot of people and it has become tough for me.

Well enough whining....

I would just think that there would be more acceptance especially living in the east bay but...

Another question I have is if it is possible to meet girls from this forum?

sublbc Reviewed by sublbc on 10-22-2007. My profession is my curse... Well I just wanted to share a little bit of my life with you all and to get some input. I recently lost a girl that I thought that I loved because I was forced to choose between her and my profession. She does smoke but is not down with the fact that I am a grower and do it full time for a living. We tried to make things work but it becme clear that what I do is not acceptable to her and she basically forced me to chose between her and my job. Since there was little choice for me I Rating: 5

[stinkyattic]

Well your last question is the easiest- YES. It's not the purpose of the forum by a long stretch but I met a wonderful man here myself recently who circumstances no longer allow me to date, but we were quite happy for a time.

The rest, not so much.

First of all, THANK YOU for making this thread. It's something that I, approaching my 30th birthday with no boyfriend, just a 'fishing buddy with benefits', and no prospects, I've been really depressed lately. Like, REALLY depressed. I can't even bring a date back to my house until I practically run a background check on him.

I was thinking- in fact I was talking about this with whatsthatsmell- okay, imagine all the potential partners are there.

At my age the pool is ALREADY not so huge.
Then take all the losers, weirdos, head cases, and obvious jerks and forget about them.
Then ask, who smokes herb?
Who thinks it should be legal?
Who would like to live where it is grown?
And finally, who would like to join me in the risk I take to grow cannabis?

There's a couple people left I guess.... ?

You know what I mean? It's very isolating, very lonely. I don't know what to do.

So I just stay here in my house full of plants. Maybe if I'm lucky my fishing buddy will let me cook him dinner one or two nights a week. Maybe if I'm REALLY lucky I'll be out in the woods with a sack of compost over my shoulder one beautiful spring day and my knight in dirt bike armor will come along on his ATV with 40 gallons of diluted PureBlend Pro...

But I'm not holding my breath.

[qdavid]

I can't give any advice that won't seem lame, but I'll try anyway. Age is just a number and worrying about some kind of clock ticking is just a waste of time or thinking about a dwindling population is just not true. There are actually more people at that age that know what they want in life than most twenty somethings and you so have more to offer than any divorced bimbo. You are a very cool chick. The best relationships happen when you're not looking for one. So just stop. And I'll bet within three months you're gaga in love. And dude, I know it hurts now, but you might have dodged a bullet. If she makes an ultimatum like that, if she had won, there would have been more coming. You guys are young and have your health. I know that sounds dumb and like an old cliche', but it's really true. Where were you guys 10 years ago? Totally different. I imagine. Growing cannibas is so much fun and like I was telling a friend, just sitting and looking at my plants is just soothing to my soul sometimes. I don't think I'll ever stop.

[Storm Crow]

Stinky, the "fishing" (and a whole lot more) is much simpler in California (or anywhere on the west coast)! Think about it- I know I wouldn't mind having your for a neighbor! , but to be honest, there are better places in Cali, with more liberal attitudes, than my red-neck corner of the state. - Granny:hippy:

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

I can't give any advice that won't seem lame, but I'll try anyway. Age is just a number and worrying about some kind of clock ticking is just a waste of time or thinking about a dwindling population is just not true. There are actually more people at that age that know what they want in life than most twenty somethings and you so have more to offer than any divorced bimbo. You are a very cool chick. The best relationships happen when you're not looking for one. So just stop. And I'll bet within three months you're gaga in love. And dude, I know it hurts now, but you might have dodged a bullet. If she makes an ultimatum like that, if she had won, there would have been more coming. You guys are young and have your health. I know that sounds dumb and like an old cliche', but it's really true. Where were you guys 10 years ago? Totally different. I imagine. Growing cannibas is so much fun and like I was telling a friend, just sitting and looking at my plants is just soothing to my soul sometimes. I don't think I'll ever stop.

While I agree with most of what you wrote, the whole "divorced bimbo" thing threw me. What does one have to do with the other? I've been divorced 3 times, and I am definitely not a bimbo. Leaving those idjits was the smartest thing I ever did.

Hey Stormcrow, why are you always trying to get everybody to move to Cali LOL?! You've got me convinced now. As soon as my oldest son graduates, (6 years) Papi and I are heading west. We're tired of the conservative midwest.

I never realized how daunting the dating scene could be for a grower. I'm so used to my friends and family being pro-cannabis that it never occurred to me.

[Storm Crow]

Because it is good here! Even in this "arm-pit" of an area! Mendo and Humbolt are much nicer, but the kids here NEED me (I am a teacher's aide/tutor). So here I'll stay. The cops are "rather corrupt", so I still act like I'm illegal. One of these days, it will be better here, but until then, I'll just keep my head low.

OK- I have a legit medical problem relating to a head trauma, but I would be smoking pot no matter what. At 19, I found pot helped a lot with the migraines! But it is my experience that most of us have some problem that pot helps.

So why should other people suffer (pain or imprisonment) when moving would take care of their problem? I look at it like severe allergies. If you were severely allergic to a pollen found in your area, it would make sense to move! Same way with laws- I'm "allergic" to prohibitionist laws! Come to Cali, get "legal", and look at the Cali forum and dispensaries as "happy hunting grounds" for friends and lovers. - Granny:hippy:

[Mrs. Greenjeans]

Right on SC!

[VoidLivesOn]

well if growing weed makes other aspects of your life that miserable or hard you should just quit and find a real job or get over it. Or good luck finding a chill girl dude.

[qdavid]

While I agree with most of what you wrote, the whole "divorced bimbo" thing threw me. What does one have to do with the other? I've been divorced 3 times, and I am definitely not a bimbo. Leaving those idjits was the smartest thing I ever did.

No, no, no. I meant bimbos usually get divorced, not all divorce's are bimbos. Hell, I got divorced twice myself. Remarried the second one though. But then she died. Kinda sucked. Don't be so sensitive MG. Your a very cool chick too, in my book. Man, sometimes you're the windshield and sometimes you're the mosquito. Tonight I'm the mosquito. I think maybe I should just open mouth, insert foot. Or, just shut up.
I would move out to Cali Storm, but it's just a little hard for an old decrepit dude to move 3,000 miles. I had enough moving every 3 or 4 years for 20 years in the Air Force. Moving so much was the worst part of it. Other than having people tying to kill your ass.
Enough hijacking. Dude, you did the right thing. Happy growing.

[Unknown American]

Boy I tell you that is a big problem right there.

I have no doubt you can meet a nice babe. But you best seriously get to know her before you even think about telling her about your grow.

I do hope you realize that growing and relationships significantly raises serious issues. Like your freedom.

Any relationship can go to hell. People can be vengeful.

I hate to say it but it is safer to not involve anyone in a grow.

I would keep it a secret from anyone until you make dam sure you know them. I speak from experience here.

I do feel your pain. In a similar way I am in the same boat you are in. It definitely sucks. I have come to the conclusion that a relationship is just not in the cards for me.

It would be nice to meet someone on the forums here but... How do you know the person you are talking to is not DEA. Paranoid? Perhaps, hey I am a stoner who got burned bad by a girl I loved and trusted. I am entitled to be paranoid.

If you do not think you can be busted by something that goes on on the Internet you are wrong. With a phone call and filling out paper work anyone can make nice money by becoming an informer. Including someone you meet here.

Also people change, I am a lifetime smoker. Most people are not, they smoke for a while and then change. When they change they might not be willing to take the risk of growing anymore.

Wish you luck in finding your babe. I have not found mine yet, but I suppose I have the rest of my life to find her.