When Papi and I married, we had a Pagan wedding, so instead of "til death us do part", our vows were, "for as long as love shall last".

Makes more sense to me. We were handfasted. It's a legal ceremony, but the idea and sentiment behind the vows are a lot more flexible.

All that being said, I think marriage is like any other contractual agreement. People grow and change, and as they do, so do their wants and needs. Partners have to adapt and be flexible, or agree to move on.

I LOVE being married to Papi. For us, it was just a public declaration of our feelings and commitment. We already "felt" married in our minds, hearts, and souls. The wedding was just making it official. Everyday he looks at me and gets a shit eating grin on his face and says, "We're married!" He's so cute.