I can relate to this post. I'm in 1.... maybe 2 (i relapsed) of these right now. I may sound slutty which is horrible but I'm just mostly confused about what I want from life. I have to say friends with benefits sucks... ass. Especially the people I've choosen. The most current guy doesnt kiss because he only does that if he is in love (which then he doesnt have sex) or he is drunk. Neither of those is he around me. I secretly like the guy more than he knows... but I could never tell him. About two weeks ago he said... "my name. you want all this romantic shit but that isnt what this is." and before that "yeah its fun. sex is like a game.". Hows that for nice. Oh well I have emotional stability issues where I feel like everybody has to like me and I know if I said "no more" then everything would be messed up. The hard part is seeing them at school everyday, I'm only 16 and perceived by most to be a well good-girl who doesnt smoke pot or ever had sex. Yeah we are pretty good friends in the public's eye but sexual partners in the privarity of our places. So basically.... i think friends with benefits is HORRIBLE. I don't even know why I do it.