Quote Originally Posted by TheGreatBenzino
KK so I live in Phx, AZ my love lives in Lng, WA. I call her my love cuase we broke up a month ago, so she's not my gf. ANYWAYS, we broke up cause the distance is too hard for her, and she was fading. NOW we dated for a year before i left..AMAZING. Seriously the coolest chick and relationship EVER no problems. Also even when i was here we woudl have minor problems. So it was weird when she started to fade and we broke up. I recently went back home for 5 days, and we acted like we were together and she still said she loved me. that was about 4 weeks ago. Now i called her SUNDAY morning, and she basically told me to stop waiting for her (cuase i was miserable) and she still loved me but it was different..(faded). So i have been not talking to her till today, where i couldnt take it anymore and did it. So she said she hadnt texted me cause she thought i was trying to get over her, and said that is waht she watns me to do. So i get sad, all depressed, talking to friends to help me and then my boss (i'm at work) says skylar come here for a moment. Gives me this job offer. I am a drafter, and work for a company that finds position to fill. So the company i work at, doesnt pay me they pay them then they pay me! hahaha get it? ANYWAYS he wants to hire me there, at 18 to 20 an hour..part time. PART TIME mainly cause he knows i want to continue my school and they offered to pay for 90% of my schooling if i get A's. but i originally planned to go back to school in WA. So i started thinking that is the best thing ever.... but then it hit me. NO MATTER how good that sounded, I still would of rather be with jessica. so i get out of the meeting. and text her about it, and am like Listen i need you to be really serious, (explain job offer) then ask I would only turn this down if you were serious about us in the future... like we would work on everything, nothing was ever really wrong but distance, but she is still in high school so if she still watns to party, we can work things out ( I know we can do it...TRUST ME). and she is like IDK what i want.

OOOOHHH NOW you dont know, a minute ago you were telling me to get over it! haha she asks how long till i have to know, i tell her to "take her time, and follow her heart" and proceed to tell her "if you tell me to come home, and it doesnt work out, i will not hold it against you (love is amazing:thumbsup. and i told her that i want to come home for her but only if she is serious about me and her. So she is going to think about it.

this morning i had NO control or Power. now i have a majority of it. but one more thing... she never EVER EVER talks to her friends about our problems... but she went to my friend for help.. so she is scared now.. CUASE SHE DOESNT HAVE THAT SAFETY NET UNDER HER. She knows i woud do antyhign for her,but doesnt know what to want, but now that i might not come home.... she realizes what she needs!

soooo tell me your opinion, ask questions, give insight! ESPECIALLY THE LADIES!
It is presumptuous for you to assume you know what she needs. She already dumped you. She lives really far away. She has probably dated a coupe guys since then.

Take the job. It's a lot of money.

Plus giving up a good paying job to move to another state to be with an ex-girlfriend who is still in high school is not noble, it's just plain stupid, and will make you look like a chump.

I know I may sound like a dick, but I am just being real with you. Reality is harsh sometimes.
angry nomad Reviewed by angry nomad on . Wow, this is crazy! Need advice! Sorry about the long read. KK so I live in Phx, AZ my love lives in Lng, WA. I call her my love cuase we broke up a month ago, so she's not my gf. ANYWAYS, we broke up cause the distance is too hard for her, and she was fading. NOW we dated for a year before i left..AMAZING. Seriously the coolest chick and relationship EVER no problems. Also even when i was here we woudl have minor problems. So it was weird when she started to fade and we broke up. I recently went back home for 5 days, and we acted like we were Rating: 5