Quote Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
BC and dehydration can be major reasons, but I really think that she really does get turned off and distracted by your lack of self-confidence. Keep the lube within arms reach and just bust that shit out if need be without even thinkin about it, and after a while you will find you may not need it as much. If you like her, then its on you to make this better. Otherwise it will probably affect your sexual performance for the rest of your life.
I'll try that as see if that helps... I know when she or I worry about it, it seems to make it worse... I just dont want to always have to use it you know? If it takes a bit for her to get back to 'normal' then I'll keep a vat of astro-gel next to our bed... But I just dont want to do that for the rest of our relationship you know?

I mean, what about when we want to be more spontaneous? Cant always have lube with us.


Quote Originally Posted by GraziLovesMary
Hmmm... this new information sheds alot of light.. If she prefers shaved herself, then even though shes doing it for you, maybe she secretly feels less attractive? Distractions are bad if you want her to orgasm, as you well know. As opposed to telling her to shave, though, maybe try asking her if having hair down there makes her feel less attractive. I know what you mean about her being embarrassed to talk about sex, Ive dealt with that plenty, but you can always get it out of them as long as you can make them feel comfortable.
Yeah, I'm starting to think that being the type of woman she is she is willing to do whatever she thinks makes me happy even if it might be 'distracting' her... She has said to me recently when we kinda talked about this that shaving makes her clit much more sensitive... But I figured she was talking more about the residual rubbing during sex, not when I'm down there 'parting' things and getting my tongue where it needs to be...

I hate for her to shave though cause I really prefer my woman to look like a woman and not some young teen/early 20 something (no offense, I just like women who look like women) but if that is what it takes I guess it wouldnt be as much as a big deal.


I appreciate the thought you put into this man... It's an important thing for me so I appreciate you giving your thought-out advice :jointsmile: