Badgirl,

Yes I'm pissed over something she doesnt have control over! Just like she has got pissed over me drinking/smoking (close to sex) cause it gives me limp dick... Yes, I understand drinking/smoking is something I do have control over but the frustration is the exact same. She doesnt like and gets upset when my 'equipment' isnt working and I'm pissed when hers isnt. But I guess I'm the 'man' right Badgirl and I should just be understanding?

Saturday night she made it VERY clear she wanted sex that evening after we got home and even though I was DRUNK and HIGH and really just wanted to get to bed I focused, got myself in the mood, even built the excitement up, got all into it, she was all wet, then 15 mins into it she gets dry.

Yeah, I'm a guy so I wear my anger on my sleeve but there is no doubt in my mind if I was the one to let her down she would have been pissed as hell too.

But the point is, it isnt all about this one event... This has happened too many times now... It's at the point where I have a harder time getting excited because, as a guy, being unsure all the time really plays on my mind. If it was once in a blue moon like my past experiences that's one thing... I thought when she switched to this new BC this was going to be behind us... But the same BS is still going on.



I'm going over her house now... I dont expect I'll sleep with her even if she wants it (not to be trite but i'm just too pissed and anger sex never did it for me)... But if anyone has any suggestions... She is on the Ortho Try-Cyclen lo... I'll give her a month with this so she can adjust (just started it a few days ago)... But if this doesnt work if any girls have any other BC methods (I know everyone's body is different) please share... She doesnt want any non-hormonal options (we talked IUDs)... Condoms are out BTW.. We both dont like them... I am willing to get 'cut' but only if I marry her... Cant take the chance of us not working out and being sterile.

We have lube but I dont like having to use it (ego not because how it feels... In fact if nothing else, if some guy/girl reads this ASTRO LUBE is great stuff. To me it is very close to the real thing and is light weight so it doesnt take away from the sensations).

Also, any suggestions on oral with her? I tried the normal light licking, touching, ect... It's weird... I never meet a girl who cums so hard with intercourse but not when I stimulate her clit... Even when she does it while I'm doing my thing she rarely cums... But when she masturbates she tells me she does cum with her clit... But with me she is different... I dont know, I man enough to admit I dont know what the heck is going on here. I never had these issues before.


(sorry for the long post)