Quote Originally Posted by ghosty
well to be quite blunt... leaving her for this reason would make you kind of an ass... just use some lube, and if you're both still getting off and she's enjoying it then whats the big fuckin deal? and if something she has no control over feels like a kick in the gut to your ego, you really need to work on other means of self-confidence cause thats pretty damn shallow
I dont know dude. I hear what you're saying but I dont think it is fair to judge other people's insecurities... I've been man enough to fess up to my fear/insecurity and even post it on a public forum in hope of getting some kind of responce(s) that might help...

It's important to me both with my ego and physically that she can function 'normally' (not to say her or I might have our days where things just dont work but for the most part I think they should). When my ego gets kicked I get axienty myself which makes it harder for me to get normal errections with her because I keep thinking "is she going to get dry"... I also like having sex for periods of time in the 45 - 60 + minute range... Hard to do when dryness keeps coming up...

And we do have that astro gel (which is awesome) but I dont want to have to use it several times a month... On occasion, whatever... But every 3rd or 5th time is just too much...

I know leaving her over it would make me an ass but staying with her and eventually looking elsewhere is just as bad... I love her very much and I'm willing to try whatever to get her to 'normalize' so here I am posting on this forum :thumbsup: