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I certainly think that compounds the problem. Being that her and I had a LONG talk about this once or twice she knows how much I get upset over it (not that I am upset with her at the time and act like an ass towards her but later when her or I bring it up I'll just be frank and tell her what I'm feeling). So I think there is some 'performance' anxiety that can come into play which just makes it worse...
Honestly dude, and for some reason Im putting alot of thought into this...

BC and dehydration can be major reasons, but I really think that she really does get turned off and distracted by your lack of self-confidence. Keep the lube within arms reach and just bust that shit out if need be without even thinkin about it, and after a while you will find you may not need it as much. If you like her, then its on you to make this better. Otherwise it will probably affect your sexual performance for the rest of your life.