Question for women: Vaginal dyness and sex in general

[GraziLovesMary]

I'll try that as see if that helps... I know when she or I worry about it, it seems to make it worse... I just dont want to always have to use it you know? If it takes a bit for her to get back to 'normal' then I'll keep a vat of astro-gel next to our bed... But I just dont want to do that for the rest of our relationship you know?

I mean, what about when we want to be more spontaneous? Cant always have lube with us.




Yeah, I'm starting to think that being the type of woman she is she is willing to do whatever she thinks makes me happy even if it might be 'distracting' her... She has said to me recently when we kinda talked about this that shaving makes her clit much more sensitive... But I figured she was talking more about the residual rubbing during sex, not when I'm down there 'parting' things and getting my tongue where it needs to be...

I hate for her to shave though cause I really prefer my woman to look like a woman and not some young teen/early 20 something (no offense, I just like women who look like women) but if that is what it takes I guess it wouldnt be as much as a big deal.


I appreciate the thought you put into this man... It's an important thing for me so I appreciate you giving your thought-out advice :jointsmile:

No prob dude, I did it because after reading a few more of your posts I got the feeling that you really do like her, you just are worried that this issue is going to end your relationship with worse results in the future.

If you two are close at all, then you are going to pick up on each others most hidden moods. Wether subconsciously or consciously, the tiniest of insecurities can have the largest of effects in the bedroom where intimacy is truly defined. Love the things about her body that she hates and make sure to tell her all the time. Make her feel sexy, and dont think that using lube makes you less of a man. Ive had sex for 8 hours with no lube, and othertimes I needed it after 20 minutes. Not a big deal, its just the way things work. Try getting a lube that takes two drops and lasts for like 4 hours... they sell em in sex shops.

[TheDefiler]

Dude just get off your high horse and use the fucking lube! U should be lucky u have anyone to fuck cause some of us aren't so lucky!

[FakeBoobsRule]

I'm surprised no one mentioned this, is your girlfriend a smoker too? Marijuana can cause vaginal dryness as well as some other chemicals and substances.

I have been with many girls that were wet 24/7 and it is a turn on as well as being with some girls that I could make squirt or get incredibly wet during sex. But every once in a while I had to prime them with some Astroglide or K-Y to get things flowing at first and it never made me feel less of a man. Sometimes shit happens and all you can do is offer a little lube or saliva.

The vagina is a weird wild animal. Many men and women have dedicated their whole lives to studying the vagina to unlock its hiden mysteries only to be stopped before realizing their dream, crushed in their pursuit of knowledge and power! Others have unlocked the power of the vagina only to be stopped by the riddle of a girl and her unpredicatable ways. Once you get one figured out, a new mystery is revealed. :lol5:

I would like to think I know enough about the girl and more than enough about the vagina. More than enough to please and enough not to get burned.

[Cyceiro]

Dude, it could be anything.

-her time of the month is coming up.
-birth control.
-stress at work/home/with family/friends
-a vaginal infection


Unless she is faking (which I seriously doubt given what you said), it most likely has asolutely NOTHING to do with you.
Lube is not something that should lower your ego. If a woman gets dry, use it and be happy that science gave us something to rely on when multiple problems cause us to lose wetness.
Try being more confident, maybe even continue foreplay DURING sex a little.
(a.k.a. playing with her clit, dirty talking, etc.)

If that doesnt help, make sure she is happy with your relationship or what may be going on with friends/family. Try to help solve any problems or offer to talk or help.

If THAT doesnt help, maybe she should talk to her gyno about change in diet, washing rituals, hormone balances, medications, etc.


Sorry if I rambled or someone else already said everything Ive said.
Hope it helps.

B

[dragonrider]

Many men and women have dedicated their whole lives to studying the vagina to unlock its hiden mysteries only to be stopped before realizing their dream, crushed in their pursuit of knowledge and power!

These people were a secret society known as the Illumitwati.

[someuser]

No prob dude, I did it because after reading a few more of your posts I got the feeling that you really do like her, you just are worried that this issue is going to end your relationship with worse results in the future.

That is EXACTLY it bro.


After about 2 or 3 weeks now on the ortho lo the dryness problem has totally seemed to go away :thumbsup:


There is no doubt though in my mind that my insecurity was ADDING to the problem while she was on the ring though. It also makes me feel better hearing I'm not the only guy who found themselves in this situation. I cant say I really talk to my friends about it... Last thing I need is to get my balls busted all the time over it.

I appreciate everyone who added both constructive positive and negative criticism. I hope this issue is settled now :jointsmile:

[VoidLivesOn]

good job man, now go get you some.

[GraziLovesMary]

That is EXACTLY it bro.


After about 2 or 3 weeks now on the ortho lo the dryness problem has totally seemed to go away :thumbsup:


There is no doubt though in my mind that my insecurity was ADDING to the problem while she was on the ring though. It also makes me feel better hearing I'm not the only guy who found themselves in this situation. I cant say I really talk to my friends about it... Last thing I need is to get my balls busted all the time over it.

I appreciate everyone who added both constructive positive and negative criticism. I hope this issue is settled now :jointsmile:

Glad to hear it my friend, things like that come and go sometimes, just stick with it and dont give up over the small shit! Good luck with everything, hope it all stays cool.