Quitting pot for her: UPDATE

[dean0000]

Good times

[psychocat]

I understood, i just felt like sharing my own opinion.

She should have known that he liked her when they agreed to go out... He was probably sober at the time of asking, if not: there were sober occasions when feeling were shared. Of this I am sure.

How can you possibly know this ?
I was stoned for fifteen years, get up toke , keep toking till sleep.
That was my lifestyle and in 15 years there was never a sober moment.

Quitting is easy and I personally believe that everyone has to decide for themselves whatever thier reason or motivation.
I quit because I felt like going back to purely recreational use, I am glad for you moe , they do say a change is as good as a rest.. LOL

[moeburn]

besides... i hate to rain on your parade... but there's still a high probability your first big fight she'll throw it in your face....

nah, we've had our fair share of fights, that never really came up.

For the record, I think part of the reason for her asking was because when we first met, we were high at a concert. I think she wanted to make sure my decision to go out with her wasn't the same as a decision to eat 15 fudge brownies (a stoned decision).

[Reefer Rogue]

How can you possibly know this ?
I was stoned for fifteen years, get up toke , keep toking till sleep.
That was my lifestyle and in 15 years there was never a sober moment.

Quitting is easy and I personally believe that everyone has to decide for themselves whatever thier reason or motivation.
I quit because I felt like going back to purely recreational use, I am glad for you moe , they do say a change is as good as a rest.. LOL

When you wake up, you are sober, until you smoke again, therefore you had sober moments.

Imo, thinking someone likes you only because they're high is ridiculous. It seems imaginary to me, farcical if you will, as if it were from an internet forum. Not that I am saying you are lying, i am simply saying that this particular scenario is so unusual, at least for me to comprehend. I've never heard of it before and i probably never shall again.

[birdgirl73]

Imo, thinking someone likes you only because they're high is ridiculous. It seems imaginary to me, farcical if you will, as if it were from an internet forum. Not that I am saying you are lying, i am simply saying that this particular scenario is so unusual, at least for me to comprehend. I've never heard of it before and i probably never shall again.

At least you owned this one yourself with "IMO" and "I've never heard of it before."

If you'll take some time to do some reading about how people in relationships with substance-users frequently feel, you'll see that this is a very common question/concern they have. It's covered in medical psychopathology, in psychology and psychiatry texts, and is dealt with frequently in support groups that deal with substance-related issues. What's farcical is only seeing this through the filter of your own experience not comprehending that someone else's experience could easily be different from your own. You may well not ever hear of it again, but that'll be because you've got your own hands clapped tight against both ears.

[psychocat]

LOL Birdgirl

[ReUp]

For lack of better words, Birdgirl consistently pwns noobs.

[VoidLivesOn]

dude i totally feel you. i've been dating this chick a whole year and she wanted me to quit from the beggining. At first it was hard cause like just cause i toked didn't mean i didn't love her but she thought otherwise. Near the end of the year she started to smoke with me. Its all good now. But those first few months were HELL.

[psychocat]

When you wake up, you are sober, until you smoke again, therefore you had sober moments. .

Wake up, light up,,,,,,,, you're right when you say moments because it certainly wasn't any longer than a moment :stoned:

[Reefer Rogue]

For lack of better words, Birdgirl consistently pwns noobs.

Please don't imply I am a noob ever again. You have nearly 300 posts and just joined this year.

Birdgirl: I shall reiterate that I, or any of my friends, have never heard of, nor witnessed such occurences such as in this thread. Therefore, I assesed my thoughts. Perhaps it is hard for you to understand that I have never encountered this.

The ability to like someone is independent of cannabis, was this affection for your girlfriend only afflicted because of your impairment on cannabis, Moe? Did you have feelings for her before you met her at this concert, while high? If you can be 100% honest and tell me that you were always high when you started liking this girl, then, and only then, i will give her theory some credit.

If a girl came to me with that question i would question, well firstly, if i was going out with a girl, she would KNOW i liked her, regardless of cannabis. So, if she asked me that, i would question why she is paranoid and lacks trust and i would asses that it is her lack of self esteem or confidence that provokes these questions. Why is she threatened by a plant? It should be obvious that you like her more, even if you smoke multiple times a day. You don't wanna have sex with ganja or kiss it, or hold it's hand, or have a baby with it...

Anyway, i'm way too deep now to go back.