Is love real?

[im_a_luckycharm]

I have a question for everyone. Is love real? Or is love a romantic illusion that we created? If it exists, does it last forever? And if 'nothing last forever' like people tell me, what's the point of pouring your heart into someone only to have them leave you some day?

I'm curious to hear other people's opinions on this.

im_a_luckycharm Reviewed by im_a_luckycharm on 09-28-2007. Is love real? I have a question for everyone. Is love real? Or is love a romantic illusion that we created? If it exists, does it last forever? And if 'nothing last forever' like people tell me, what's the point of pouring your heart into someone only to have them leave you some day? I'm curious to hear other people's opinions on this. Rating: 5

[geonagual]

To me, it seems like a crap shoot..you are never sure how long it is going to last so enjoy it today and forget about tomorrow.

[birdgirl73]

I think it's real, but I also know that my conception of love is filtered through my own experience and that everyone has a different experience. I can't say whether it's real for someone else. Not sure if that made sense. I guess that might be another way of saying that, in many ways, it IS a creation (but not necessarily an illusion to its creator).

[geonagual]

I think it's real, but I also know that my conception of love is filtered through my own experience and that everyone has a different experience. I can't say whether it's real for someone else. Not sure if that made sense. I guess that might be another way of saying that, in many ways, it IS a creation (but not necessarily an illusion to its creator).

WOW! I really didnt understand that...
wait, 2nd time through...ok I get it..I think a lot of time love is confused for lust..I think we all want to be loved more than anything.

[birdgirl73]

Yeah, they do get confused. And I think between people of the opposite sex (assuming they're hetero) lust and love can travel together. I think lust works better when there's love, in fact. Yep, I agree. Our desire to be loved is huge. We're sheltered and nurtured in a warm safe place after we're conceived and fed and nurtured as babies and children, at least if things are done right. I think those of us who were healthily psychologically attached as babies spend the rest of our lives seeking that same sort of closeness and nurturing and sustenance. That's my thinking on love right now, at least. I don't know that it's true, but it makes sense to me.

[CanaDanKs Inc.]

In a way.. isn't "love" kindda "created" in our brains through chemical modifications triggered from our experiences? Jumping off a cliff makes me feel fucking weird, running 20 peaceful miles also makes me feel different, just like coming home and seeing a tasty meal on the table will erase whatever is on my mind. Now when I see a beautiful young lady I also start feeling altered...doesn't life seem so much more interesting now?

When my bee frequents a juicy flower, there's a major chemical buzz going, no doubt.

I don't know, is love real?

[birdgirl73]

That's a good point, Cana D. Chemicals in our brain (hormones, specifically) play a huge role in it.

[napolitana869]

love is a cultural construct. It exists for us because we've grown up with the concept of it. Love is not a universal concept.

[Coelho]

It makes sense... i would risk that love is the cultural response to the alterations produced by the hormones... which, causes the lovers to feel like nurtured and cared babies...

[CanaDanKs Inc.]

I think we just figured out the mystery of love!