Thinking about ending a friendship

[Anubis10012007]

Alright. I am thinking about ending my friendship with my friend. There are a lot of reasons, but I believe that the main one is that I think I am being used just for weed. I go over her house almost every other day and really all we do is smoke and go for walks. Nothing else really. Its like I just get so damn bored over there and I don't want to be part of her life anymore. What really pissed me off is that she is very moody at times and is on meds for depression.

For one, you never smoke weed and take meds at the same time. Ok? Meds for depression are much worse for you than you realize, so always stick with weed as your natural anti-depressant.

So earlier this week, she wanted weed. I told her that I am not calling my guy because I just saw him the day before. Most dealers do not want you at their house everyday and I totally respect that and I am trying to explain this to her. It's just how the game works. So I get bitched at from her about it and she complained that I only brought a bowl over for her and she got 3 hits. Well, perhaps we shouldn't be smoking with 3 people (her husband included)!!

But I smoke with her out of the goodness of my heart to smoke and give her company but it is costing me a fortune to smoke for myself and her and husband. I like to smoke everyday when I can, but I can really only do that if I am smoking by myself. But that is all we do. They do supply it sometimes, but about 80% if the time, it is my weed. She doesn't even have a new job yet.

I have only known this girl for about a year and we only started hanging out for a few months. She is still married and has kids but is going through a separation so I was never really too thrilled about that. We are not dating, but she wanted to when we met because thats when she went through the separation. I do not want to date her because I see how she is at times. Her kids are a little annoying too.

There are other things that I don't want to talk about it, but I just really do not want to have anything to do with her anymore.

I just need to find a way to say this to her. Perhaps I just will not answer the phone anymore when she calls and she will get the drift. It hurts doing this, but I feel this is the best way for me to deal with this issue. We just don't have anything in common besides weed. But besides weed, she has a more addictive personality as she was on coke for a bit before. That is totally not cool at all and I do not want to be around people with a past like that. Pure stoners do not use hard drugs.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I do not need another friend.

Anubis10012007 Reviewed by Anubis10012007 on 09-26-2007. Thinking about ending a friendship Alright. I am thinking about ending my friendship with my friend. There are a lot of reasons, but I believe that the main one is that I think I am being used just for weed. I go over her house almost every other day and really all we do is smoke and go for walks. Nothing else really. Its like I just get so damn bored over there and I don't want to be part of her life anymore. What really pissed me off is that she is very moody at times and is on meds for depression. For one, you never smoke Rating: 5

[stinkyattic]

For one, you never smoke weed and take meds at the same time. Ok? Meds for depression are much worse for you than you realize, so always stick with weed as your natural anti-depressant.

That's an awfully bold statement.
Based upon what? Anecdotal evidence? Your own personal experience?
I hate to break it to you, but there are plenty of people who really do need antidepressants to function normally. This is something for them to discuss with a psychiatrist, and they really don't need a sweeping judgment like that coming from a person outside the medical community. She's under the care of a mental health professional obviously. What perscription antidepressants she is prescribed is quite frankly none of your business.

[savagepossum]

tell her your quitting weed for awhile and see if she stil wants to hang out.

[Weedhound]

That's an awfully bold statement.
Based upon what? Anecdotal evidence? Your own personal experience?
I hate to break it to you, but there are plenty of people who really do need antidepressants to function normally. This is something for them to discuss with a psychiatrist, and they really don't need a sweeping judgment like that coming from a person outside the medical community. She's under the care of a mental health professional obviously. What perscription antidepressants she is prescribed is quite frankly none of your business.

Thank you Stinky......the last thing we need is another Tom Cruise statement about depression. If you haven't been there.....please keep your mouth shut. :wtf:

[Purple Banana]

I use antidepressants to help me maintain some pain control, helps with my mood as well, but I smoke weed, and the combination works out great. A lot of people honestly can't help feeling depressed, it's chemical changes in their brain that are beyond their control, and the only way to make them feel as normal as possible could be medication... So don't judge it until it's happened to you.

Have you tried talking to both her and her hubby about this?

[skidthrow]

I just need to find a way to say this to her. Perhaps I just will not answer the phone anymore when she calls and she will get the drift. It hurts doing this, but I feel this is the best way for me to deal with this issue.

nah.
the only way to deal with people that you care about is straight up. they deserve no less. just tell her how you feel plain and simple.

she'll be more pissed if you do the dontanswerthephonewhenevericallanymore thing.

its kinda like critiquing someones work - are you really helping them if you beat around the bush and give them bs answers to save their 'feelings'? not saying be an aHole but there is a happy medium.

[Grimace]

tell her your quitting weed for awhile and see if she stil wants to hang out.

I second this statement just say your job is drug testing soon or your gonna try and get a new job where they test. Also if I were in your situation when she asks to come over or for you to come over and smoke ask her to match or say something like "I dont have any bud wanna split a bag"? Also if you dont like her man smoking with you guys let her know she will probably understand and if she doesent tell her your not breaking out your bud when hes around. If you really dont like him then tap that shit ( jk).

tokey toke :rastasmoke:

[Bogart]

Just be honest with her. Explain to her how you are really feeling about your friendship and that you don't see her as anything, but a friend.

Everyone deserves to be told the truth, she may not even know that she has these bad traits according to your post.

At the same time be prepared and mature enough to listen to what she has to say about you that is annoying her.

[hero3279]

If you don't feel comfortable chilling with the person or things aren't the same anymore. Just leave it for a bit. Go on a break. If the behaviour still persists, then you know it's time to leave. You don't have to be friends just to keep the person happy. You define your world and you choose your friends. If they are making you feel like that, then maybe you should ask yourself if she truly is your friend? As much as you don't want to ruin a friendship, and all those good memories etc, sometimes you have to.

Ask yourself this, if she was the only friend you could ever have, would you rather choose her friendship ,or reject her and be alone.

[420MissHighTimes420]

That's an awfully bold statement.
Based upon what? Anecdotal evidence? Your own personal experience?
I hate to break it to you, but there are plenty of people who really do need antidepressants to function normally. This is something for them to discuss with a psychiatrist, and they really don't need a sweeping judgment like that coming from a person outside the medical community. She's under the care of a mental health professional obviously. What perscription antidepressants she is prescribed is quite frankly none of your business.

This is very true. I was suffering from post traumatic stress disorder about 3 yrs ago and I smoked pot everyday like I do now, I was super depressed, and until I went onto anti-depressent meds I wasn't ok. I stopped the anti-depressents because I basically trained myself not to worry so much -my aniexty and PTSD is what was causing my depression ... anyways yeah some people really do need depression meds, plus for some people pot can actually make it WORSE.

About your friend, why don't you tell her that it bothers you? How is she supposed to know. If you smoke her up everyday then of course she's going to go along with it.
I know how u feel thoguh ebcause I have a friend who will call me and ask if I have bud, and if I say no he says well ok call me later or something. And if I do, it's well come over. He does smoke me up a good amount but our 'friendship' doesn't expand beyond our mutual love for maryjane.

And if she wanted to date you and shes depressed don't be rude and not answer her calls, that really hurts man. Talk to her about it because then maybe things can change.