well it looks like you got some stretch starting, as far as the female/male, do yourself a favor and do a search on the forums, there are pics EVERYWHERE of males and females. Second, you should have all that stuff setup BEFORE you start growing not when you are in the middle of it. Do you even know what the grow space is gonna be? What about ventilation, heat, smell, etc, etc, etc. You really need to have all that setup ahead of time....

Good luck on your grow tho....