Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
I can understand it and why it would bother you. But I also know you well enough to know you have a tendency sometimes to look at the world through fecal-colored glasses. So instead of being able to dismiss it as old history or a learning experience, you choose to let it define you or affect your equanimity now. It doesn't have to do that. That's a conscious choice you're making in your own perception, if you can understand that. The worst thing about this whole situation is that if it were anyone else other than yourself, you wouldn't hold that against them. At least I don't think you would in most cases.
no i wouldn't and i admit everything you just said.... i've always been far harder on my self with criticism.... i was about to say i can't control that, but i also know you know that's not how a mind works... i guess the words are 'i'm not strong enough to convince myself of that' i dunno i've always been that way =/

for the most part, i don't even pay any mind to it.... i only really think of it when someone brings it up