confusing new relationship HELP

[psteve]

me wasted all the time.

This may actually be the root of the problem...
Stick with weed. :jointsmile:

[420MissHighTimes420]

^^tell me about it! i never used to drink a lot, 2 maye 3 times a week. i need to put my id away for a little while. ever since i got that, and ive been living alone, and im depressed, the bottles are always there so its tough.
drinking is stupid when you binge like me.

[420MissHighTimes420]

haha if i was someone reading this i would be thinking to myself 'what an ass'
i need to grow up

edit : and stop lieing to myself

my appologies for being so annoying with this

[psteve]

Alcohol helps you make stupid decisions/choices.

[Psycho4Bud]

Just a heads up........this is a WEED site not the life styles of the drunk and stupid.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[420MissHighTimes420]

^^my bad I really dont need to break anymore rules. i thought that was ok. im going to go read the rules its been awhile since i have and that would proably be a good idea.

[stinkyattic]

This may actually be the root of the problem...
Stick with weed. :jointsmile:

Agreed. I think the main issue here is making poor choices personally, rather than a relationship issue.

When I was in college, I was dating a 40 year old. For YEARS. It was a nice relationship- he was never ANYTHING but respectful to me- but looking back, I know that the relationship may have been fine, but my reasons for being in it WEREN'T.

When my parents got divorced when I was 5, my mother moved the family far away from my father, and I always had the feeling, however illogical, that he had abandoned us.

As an adult, with 10 years' perspective on that time in my life I can say that I was NOT in a healthy place emotionally and REALLY should have been talking to a therapist THEN, rather than waiting until now to do it. I was stubborn and was like, 'what the hell, I'm having a good time', without looking honestly at WHY I was attracted to older men to begin with.

In the long run, that relationship hurt me in pretty serious ways- from beating myself up over having fallen into the father-figure trap knowing I'm too smart for that, to always looking for men with whom I CAN'T have a real relationship because that was the precedent I set myself in my teens, to being depressed over having wasted all that time when my friends were having meaningful relationships with guys their own age, to whom they are now married and stable, and here's me, struggling to pay a mortgage on a single salary, single, and going, SHIT. Dating isn't all that much fun in your 30s.

May I also venture that fellas like P4B are hard to come by. [Psycho, you may feel free to edit, rearrange, and read in whatever puns you like into that statement ] And that there's a WORLD of difference between 18 and 24.

[qdavid]

Your just being used as a snot-rag. Alcohol and sex "as soon as she left", these speak louder than any words. Have you ever heard of self respect? This sex before relationship thing is just stupid. I know you don't want to hear this, but you started it. Now you want the mods to delete this thread. A bimbo is a bimbo is a bimbo. What would you think if you read about another 18yo. girl doing this? If you are really seeking advice why are you arguing? Damn, my eyes hurt. Nothing about this will end well.

[Psycho4Bud]

May I also venture that fellas like P4B are hard to come by. [Psycho, you may feel free to edit, rearrange, and read in whatever puns you like into that statement ] And that there's a WORLD of difference between 18 and 24.

Thanks much and I do agree.......them 6 years do make a big difference! 18 your just happy to be out of school while by 24 your actually looking ahead for the future.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[stinkyattic]

Well p4b I'm not just fluffin' yer muffin either.
It's what I was talking about to my guy friend with the young girlfriend- You have to be a certain ethical, cautious, respectful, and above all, caring individual to even consider going out with someone who looks up to you in such a profound way.
It is so easy to take advantage of.